Harassment

I just need to vent...to give a brief synopsis...I bought concert tickets for my "husband" for our anniversary in early May for this group O.A.R. that he likes.  It was before I knew about any of the emails and the affair still going on.  Well the concert was tonight and I knew he was on-call at the hospital and didn't bother to ask if he wanted to go..figured I'd eat the cost of one ticket, scalp it, or give it away...and just go myself.  Well, in the midst of a torential downpour and 90 degree weather, I still decided to stay at the concert...figured what the hell I had a babysitter and I would enjoy the music.  Well, I get a text from his whore saying and I quote "Lisa-you know I'm here and I know you are here alone.  I am with a friend from jh, if you want to join us?  Just a thought..."  WTF?  Is she fucking crazy...like I would want to join her.  Immediately I was in a texting war with said "husband" saying why does she know I'm here...it's none of her or anyone else's business, why does he need to tell her where I am.  I told him this is the reason he needs to find a new place to live and pronto..kids or no kids I need my peace.  I also said I am sick of being their topic of conversation and being made fun of and I hope they are happy I'm a joke.  He said he told her I was there so we wouldn't run into each other and didn't tell her to text me..she took that upon herself.   I was so hysterical crying, some poor girl was comforting me.  I couldn't even enjoy the show. It's like she was trying to dig the knife in a little more being that I was alone.  I have never been so humiliated in all my life.  Then I'm leaving to go to my car and who do I see but her pulling out of the lot.  I had to hide behind 2 security men before I went up to her car and pulled her out of it.  Why are they doing this to me?  All I want is to be left alone.  I started to text her but did not....she is not worth my energy so I put all that anger and resentment into texting him on how I felt.  That should give them something to talk about.  I almost wrecked the car coming home 2x's.  I should not have been driving being that upset and in the rain, but I have/had no choice.  I have nobody to call and I need to do this on my own...being upset or not.  This is what I have to look forward to...fucking harassment and them laughing at me and me being a joke.  They can all go to hell!  Sorry I'm a little angry.  I called my mom and she gets mad at me..she doesn't know what to do for me but I cannot take it anymore.  I'm one step away from a nervous breakdown and I can feel it.  I just want this "Groundhog Day" to stop and for me to be left alone with my boys.  Is that too much to ask?  He continues to wreck me and any benign conversation ends up between them, as well.  I can't take it...this is why I say NOTHING to him.  I wish God would strike one of them, just so I can have a moment of peace...that is all I ask.  For me to have a moment as to figure out where my life is going without having the OW in it.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

sending you a pm
llmt
llmt

Again this morning the tears just flow from my eyes. Can\'t wait to see what it\'s like when he comes home from work this morning after the texting war last night.
deleted_user
deleted_user

she\'s f\'ing crazy and he needs to move his ass out and let you start to move on. So sorry you are going through all this and sorry the two of them are such morons.

And, it\'s okay to be angry. This is the place to vent. Better to do it here than in front of him or his whore or your boys. Let us have it!!!!
goodfight
goodfight

DadWithHope is spot on, VENT all that rage here so you can work with a clear mind dealing with this crap. He needs to go NOW.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Poor llmt!!! I know exactly how you feel. My H did this to me, with his \"best friend\" and co-worker. She knew everything that went on, from my Dr. appt\'s, emergency visits, hospital, and he even sent her apicture of me in my granny underwear drenched with my spinal fluid, how nice. Another time, I cut my finger tip off, and he sent a male co-worker the pix of my black gross finger, asking him, \"Have you had lunch yet?\". Another time I went to drive to see him in the hospital on a snowy drifty day, and I slid, hitting a tree. He sent a pic of that to the who, and said tree=1 pt. Blondegal= 0 pts. Hah, ha, very funny that his wife (me) gets into an accident on the way to visit HIM, and that is his appreciation!!! It really sucks. Over a year ago, I asked them both to keep me out of their conversation, it only escalated, as did all the texts and phone calls to each other. They claim it was ONLY an \"emotional affair\". Please!!!!

I went thru hell, and I know how you feel, about to have a fricken nervous breakdown due to their fricken bullshit. It\'s in my journals, but I think most of them are for friends, so I\'m interested in adding you as a friend so you can read the same shit, that you have written. That\'ll make your day!!! lol

But at least you know you are not the only one, who has had a total asshole for a husband, while he thought this was okay!!!

Now 3 months forward, after kicking his ass out, and threatening divorce, along with reading a couple books on it, and contacting an atty. he got a taste of how it felt to be on the \"outs\", except he brought it upon himself. Don\'t think he liked the prospect of supporting himself entirely, and my moving on. He sought therapy, on his own, we\'ve gone together, and now we are giving it a try.

But if there is any, ANY type of repeat of this bullshit, he knows I\'m done with it!!! What the h ell are these idiot boys thinking???? Anyways, enough of my rant, just wanted to let you know...you\'re not alone & if you want to email or chat let me know!!!

Best of luck in your trying days. I\'m going to read a few more of your journals as I only read this one, and it got me so pissed off. I was reading my friend, DadWith Hope\'s responses, and was curious about one he wrote to you, so I had to chime in with him!! He\'s great, and has wise ideas, and knows all about this abuse crap, as well!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

WOW I am amazed at how cruel someone can be... I can\'t even flippin believe it. I hope she gets hers someday...is that bad? I am so so so sad for you. I understand...ughh. Big hug.
llmt
llmt

Even IF she was trying to be nice...doubtful...but EVEN IF...like I\'d f\'in join her and her friend. I\'d rather join Charles Manson in his jail cell than hang with her and her friend. WTF?