HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Sunday, May 9, 2010 - 5:05 PM
 
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!
 
Here is a hearty wish that all of those who deserve it have a very happy Mother's Day!
 
I do not know what statistics show, but I am hopeful that the majority of mothers have love and respect for their children. Love and respect are not things that are given lightly. They must be earned and deserved.
 
Although my mother is no longer living, I frequently look back on the past and go over my many remembrances of her. She had many good qualities, which are sometimes too easy to forget. On the other hand, because of a mental illness, she inflicted many forms of abuse on me.
 
In recent years, I have tried forgiving her for much of the unwanted emotional and physical pain that she thrust upon me. As much as I have tried, I have not been able to completely forget and forgive her. I doubt that I will ever be able to do that. That is something I will have to deal with throughout the rest of my life.
 
For the mothers here on DS, I truly hope that you show your children how much you love them. It will make all of you feel good with the world.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Thanks for sharing this. I needed it. I am feeling conflicted and having a hard time merging the feelings of anger and good qualities regarding most of my family members. Mother\'s Day is a hard time for me. It\'s always nice to know I\'m not alone.

It\'s also nice to be reminded of my power, too.
Booky63
Booky63

Nice to have you back Jim. This is probably something you will find difficult to forgive and forget. Mothers are the one person who should care for us regardless of their problems. I think you understand your mother\'s actions, but for you to move on you will need to find a place where what she did to you doesn\'t affect you any more. I would like that for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user

thank you Jim. I try, not perfect, but I try as a mother. hope you had a good weekend
deleted_user
deleted_user

\"As much as I have tried, I have not been able to completely forget and forgive her. I doubt that I will ever be able to do that. That is something I will have to deal with throughout the rest of my life.\"

You may have just \'cured\' yourself, you know that? I don\'t agree with the \'forgive and forget\' mindset.

But, I also don\'t think it needs to rent every waking moment of space in one\'s head and heart 24-7 either.

Keep just enough of it as an \'alarm system\' to keep you alert to someone else trying to pull one over on you. But temper that alarm. Don\'t let it always put you in \'fight or flight\'. Just let it make you *aware*, there is something that feels off to you, and leave rooms for trust to be planted.

Not everyone is like your mother, or the people who forced you as a child and later on. But sadly, they are out there. You have, weirdly enough, benefit of wisdom via alarm system borne of experience.

You know darned well, you aren\'t going to let anything like that happen to you again. You\'ve been gaining strength, slowly, at setting boundaries and speaking up for yourself. KEEP GOING.

But - try not to draw a bullseye on yourself when it\'s not warranted.

Many folks have times when life seems to be an avalanche of things going wrong. Maybe you need some skis put on your wheels??? ; )

I\'m always here for you. If I\'m not here, just send out the Weeble Signal.

Hugs and Mojo
Weebs