Happy? Halloween

Well will see what this day brings.   Youngest son in a mood last night.  Girlfriend not online and oldest son offered to pick up girlfriend and bring her over tonight last week.   Well didn't arrange anything and neither did  youngest or girlfriend who forgot about it.   I told oldest last week I wanted out of arranging every little thing for youngest son and if he wanted to pick up girlfriend could as I am not trying to be mean or cruel just not do so much for him.   Well oldest did nothing so asked him yesterday if he was getting her and he said was planning on it, but no time set up and hadn't asked her mom.  Ugh.  Probably should have dropped it there and not mentioned it to youngest, but didn't know if he was expecting girlfriend to be here or not.
Then turned it over to my husband to try and arrange as I had a class to teach last night.   Came home 3 hours later at 8:30 and he was just trying to msg the girlfriend's mom on facebook for the first time.  Grrr.   She did not respond so now what to do?  Can't just show up at her house and grab her and in the meantime youngest hating on Halloween telling me he hates everything we do on Halloween and how he could have gone out with some friends to do stuff...Guess my fault girlfriend probably not coming and more hatred.
Stupid husband last night also standing there telling youngest he needs to hug and kiss me and youngest just staring at him and husband telling him over and over to do it.  Like this makes me feel any better.   He knows youngest son is having issues with me and trying to force him to show me affection and having him refuse does not help my feelings at all.  Went to bed and cried.
I hope he isn't too bad tonight.  I normally love Halloween one of my favorite holidays, but not with a brooding hateful child carrying on all night.