Hang on Tight Here We Go......
Well I thought I would have at least a few weeks before he would start his crap but NOPE THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN WAY TO EASY. It just seems like to me that his big FAT EGO can't except the fact that it is done. The papers are stamped and in the court system but somehow he still thinks that I can change it. He got stuck with the attorney fees also since this was all his doing. He is the one that packed up and left NOT ME RIGHT!!!! Yet he keeps calling and leaving me messages cause I won't answer the phone saying " Tell your Attorney i'm not paying that bill I don't have any money left since YOUR sucking me dry on Child Support and Spousal Support"" I will pay for Austin but why in the hell do I have to pay you Spousal Support you work" Then he went on to say " So I guess you can afford to move out of the apt and into a house now while i'm stuck in this 250sq ft studio, Lucky You" I listened to it and I must admit I laughed some because well " TOUGH SHIT" His crappy 250sq ft studio is what he chose when he left right? Why is his place my fault he chose the dump. I love my apt yah it's alot smaller than i'm used to and I have to pay for storage every month to hold the rest of my stuff but I get the whole place spotless clean in about an hour.
Austin has made so many friends and in a couple months Shelby will be moving out with some girlfriends and Austin and I will have an extra room to use as a game room/office so we will have a little more room. He asked me how is he supposed to move on and up in his life if i'm taking all his money " I will be stuck in that studio for ever" All your choices I told him. I told you months ago that eventually all your bad choices would catch up with you and GUESS WHAT NOW IT HAS. AND YOU JUST HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT LIKE I DID. I know he was never expecting to have to pay what he has to now and in my state every Sunday they do a DEAD BEAT DAD ROUNDUP. So if he doesn't pay it's only a matter of 2 months and they make the list then he goes to jail and his bail is what he owes in support. So it's pay or go directly to jail. I think that he is finally realizing no fun single life for me anymore all I can do is work and pay work and pay. Well that's the way my life has been for almost 7 months now only I had a little boy to keep ok during all this. I had to make sure he got up ate breakfast, brushed his teeth, washed his face and got to school every morning by 7:45. I didn't have the luxury of going to a bar every night and drink my sorrows away then sleep in til God knows when and only have myself to deal with. That is what he has been able to do all this time so no I don't feel sorry for him. We all have to be held accountable for our actions something he never learned because I always handled everything for him for 22 years since he was 20 years old.
I guess he is just going to have to start going through the process now and stop kidding himself about how great his life was going to be without us. Cause now not only is he miserable and alone but now he's BROKE TOO........
Austin has made so many friends and in a couple months Shelby will be moving out with some girlfriends and Austin and I will have an extra room to use as a game room/office so we will have a little more room. He asked me how is he supposed to move on and up in his life if i'm taking all his money " I will be stuck in that studio for ever" All your choices I told him. I told you months ago that eventually all your bad choices would catch up with you and GUESS WHAT NOW IT HAS. AND YOU JUST HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT LIKE I DID. I know he was never expecting to have to pay what he has to now and in my state every Sunday they do a DEAD BEAT DAD ROUNDUP. So if he doesn't pay it's only a matter of 2 months and they make the list then he goes to jail and his bail is what he owes in support. So it's pay or go directly to jail. I think that he is finally realizing no fun single life for me anymore all I can do is work and pay work and pay. Well that's the way my life has been for almost 7 months now only I had a little boy to keep ok during all this. I had to make sure he got up ate breakfast, brushed his teeth, washed his face and got to school every morning by 7:45. I didn't have the luxury of going to a bar every night and drink my sorrows away then sleep in til God knows when and only have myself to deal with. That is what he has been able to do all this time so no I don't feel sorry for him. We all have to be held accountable for our actions something he never learned because I always handled everything for him for 22 years since he was 20 years old.
I guess he is just going to have to start going through the process now and stop kidding himself about how great his life was going to be without us. Cause now not only is he miserable and alone but now he's BROKE TOO........
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There are consequences to all our actions. Some of the consequences are good and some bad. Your ex just ran right smack into the consequences of his actions. I tried to explain that to the ex before he became the ex. That because of his actions one of his consequences was losing me.
I guess your ex will have to get a second job or marry someone who can support him because most of his salary now belongs to you and Austin. That sounds fair to me because when you play you should pay.
If you respond at all, Keep any responses to his rantings short and to the point.. Lecturing him is only going to fuel his fire. My advice: Next time, all you need to say is \"Tell it to the Judge.\" The LESS you say to him, the better off you will be.