Guilt and Anger

So I am managing to alienate everyone yet again.   Bugged my daughter in law for the wedding photos again.  It has been 6 months and she told me she got them in mid May.  She got angry at me and wouldn't even tell me good bye.   She did give me the wedding photos.  Don't know if it was worth it or not.  Of course she gets upset at half the things I say.  I just have no idea what I did to her.  She liked me back before the wedding.  I know she did.
Middle son tells me I guilt everyone into doing things and I should stop.   Well yes I suppose I do.   I guess I stop asking people to come see me and I need to stop trying to fix it when someone is angry with me.    
I guilted my husband and my son about not doing their share of the housework so they are both mad at me.   My husband asked me if there was anything that didn't make me angry yesterday.  I guess not.
I left work early today to take my son a whole 3 miles to an employment agency and he wasn't ready when I got home.  I got mad and my husband basically said I shouldn't be.  
I want too much from everyone.  My expectations are too high.  I am a snot.   Gee I was called that in high school.   I guess I have not changed.  I need to go live by myself somewhere.  I should not be around people cause all I do is make everyone around me miserable and I am miserable too.