Grumpy

Why am I always the one that has to say the hard stuff? I was the first one to suggest my husband leave because I honestly thought he was going crazy. He said thank you for that, it was exactly what he needed. Now after 6 months and he's doing phenomelly (sp?) better, I have to be the one to say we need a divorce, because he doesn't want to get back together and I don't want to be responsible for his lack of financial sense. He said a huge weight has been taken off his shoulders and he wanted to ask but was to afraid to upset me. (I"m not a china doll). Now, I have to be the one to say, I don't want you to be here every weekend, because it just upsets me and takes me days to get over everytime. He seems like its so easy to go from husband to "best buddy", but I just cannot. He even tries to point out people I can date. uggghhhh. I'm grumpy and put out. I will hate weekends alone, but I will get over it. I'm sure I will save tons of money and I won't have to be in this funk every monday now. I'm giving into my grumpiness, kicking rocks, kinda mood today. I don't want to feel better today, I just want to growl and hide in my corner. In another note, I started my half sleeve tattoo yesterday to cover some old scars. Its looking fantastic already. To bad my ex is the tattoo artist, I will have to go to him to finish it.

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anxietymc
anxietymc

\"I will hate weekends alone, but I will get over it. I\'m sure I will save tons of money and I won\'t have to be in this funk every monday now. I\'m giving into my grumpiness, kicking rocks, kinda mood today. I don\'t want to feel better today, I just want to growl and hide in my corner. \"

This is how I feel today. Very alone in a funk not sure how to get out of it and not sure if I even want to. Gonna watch fireworks by myself tonight.

That\'s awesome you are getting a half sleeve. I always wanted one (or any tattoo for that matter) but for professional purposes I need to keep clean...
Why can\'t you go to someone else to clean it up? I\'m sure there are other tattoo artists you can hire. Did you design it yourself? Would love to see pics!

Hope you find your way out of the funk soon.
Bob68
Bob68

I also hope you feel better soon and can find a way to untether yourself. Truth be told, he sounds kind of oblivious. In a way I guess it\'s nice that he still wants to be friends, but I don\'t know how that would work, especially given where I\'m coming from right now.
I hope things resolve themselves for you soon.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Shan, you probably need a clean break for a while so you can heal. I wanted to stay in connect with my ex. She was my best friend. But I wouldn\'t never be able to heal. You can be friends with your ex down the line but not until your ready (Doesn\'t matter if he\'s ready now). I know it\'s tough to give that up for a while...
shantellew
shantellew

Ya\'ll are so right. I told him I needed a break, and he agreed it was for the best, even though he will miss getting to come over on the weekend to my clean house, home cooked meals and laundry! Oh well! He wanted his own life, now he will have to deal with it. I care deeply for him but I couldn\'t wait for him to leave this weekend. I know that sounds terrible, but I needed him to GO!