Great Advice
So I talked to my friend Alex earlier.....(we've been friends for many years and he's really been there for me through all the bad). I just updated him about my ex draqma and things i've been thinking about lately......we had one of our lovely deep convos and yeah great times. I vented about how i'm trying to be more comfortable alone with myself, my mind, thoughts etc... and i'm just trying to find my happiness......i have a great life with amazing people in it and most have no idea that i hate to be alone and tend to fall apart when i just am alone with my thoughts...they're always neg and about my past. I've realized that I still blame myself for my past and am just very very hard on myself, i'm my own worst enemy really.....My friend Alex gave me great advice today....he told me "forgive yourself already for your past" I told him I was trying and working on it. Alex told me "no that's not good enough, do it or else you'll never be happy." And I've given our conversation a lot of thought and he's totally right....so that's my new goal is to forgive myself.
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Your friend is so right, once you forgive yourself you can move forward from there. It is not easy and will take time but I know you can do it. I have been in lots of therapy over the years so I can share with you things I have learned to help me. Sending you some hugs...
your friend is right, you need to stop beating yourself down for your past. And you also need to learn to forgive those who have hurt you.
Beary I would love to hear any tips you have....cuz I\'m still trying to figure out how to forgive myself.....and cp warrior I don\'t know if I can ever forgive someone for raping me...i don\'t think I can ever get to that point of forgiveness
i forgive people way too easily...and i will NEVER be able to forgive the \"men\" that raped me. I think it is unforgivable intrusion that will haunt me for the rest of my life, they do not deserve forgiveness for that
Your friend is right. I think I am going to try to take his advice also, you are lucky to have such good friends that support you/