GREAT day!

Had a counseling appointment with the stbx yesterday...it went quite well.  No, not because we're necessarily reconciling, but the counselor held him accountable for things that he tried to make me to believe were MY issues.  Let me explain.  I HATED any arguments or serious discussions with my stbx because it always left me feeling like I was going crazy.  He had this knack of pointing most everything right back at me.  He loves to say, "...tell me if I'm wrong..." but really that doesn't mean you can because if you do, he won't concede he's wrong.  But I seriously began to doubt and question myself since I (according to him ) was clearly the one with all the issues.  Last summer when he decided he wanted a divorce, he vented at me for weeks about what hadn't done right.  He'll say he knows he didn't do things right, but he won't say what those things are...yet he has no problem pointing out my flaws and "failings."  At our counseling appointment last night, the counselor at one point said to him, "you seem to take most everything and turn it back into blaming dddd (me)."  YES!!!!  Validation!  I was not crazy, I am intelligent and have good insights and valid opinions.  Perhaps some of the issues between us are actually his!!!  (hint of sarcasm)  While I don't wish pain upon him...it felt good to watch him squirm when she pointed out this and a couple of other things to him.  YAY!!!!!!