Grandma (coarse language)

So, as far as I can remember I've never really had a close relationship with my grandmother, even when I was little I was more interested in seeing what Grampa was doing. Even their honorary grandparent titles, she's Grandma, he's Grampa. Anyway, it's been about two years since they've moved in with Mum. Mum has a large four bedroom, Edwardian Home with an apartment complex attached to it, they are currently in the apartment complex to maintain independence and space as if they moved in together in the home someone would end up dead (I exaggerate but the point is still there). My Grandmother has always been a bit of a nut, I don't mean hah hah she's kooky sense of humor, I mean, she's nuts. She has always been high strung, particularly about money, my grandfather, and her interpersonal social life; now she is suffering from Dementia and Alzheimers, two very different things but they act together to make one big mess. My poor Mum is in the middle, she is the sandwich generation, supporting her aging parents, while still supporting a child (more or less). She has siblings, two brothers, do they help? no. One lives half an hour away, the other seven hours away. My Uncle who lives seven hours away, that is understandable, he lives SEVEN HOURS AWAY. The one who lives half an hour away? that's unacceptable. Mum has no support available, and Mum is Grandma's secondary caretaker, nevermind my poor Grampa who is stuck dealing with this crazy lady. 

Why is she crazy?! well, let me count the ways; first thing in 2011, when I noticed something was wrong, she would wake up disoriented and confused from a nap, and ask for her mother. She would talk to herself, argue, grumble and get into full-on arguments with how she was going to go home, and she couldn't take it anymore. IT being living with my Grampa, apparently, that was a threat at the beginning of their marriage, that she would leave and go back to her mother's house. *snort*

secondly, she started thinking her medication was going to kill her, she's on various inhalers, I'm pretty sure she has emphysema, she definitely has respiratory problems anyway (smoking since one was 16 would do that), so she doesn't take her inhalers properly, she opens her mouth and then squirts it with her mouth open, instead of breathing it in, so she loses more than half the medication to the air. Mum has tried giving her an inhalation chamber, but Grandma insists "it's only used in the hospital". She's also on blood thinners (she was, not sure if she still is), a diuretic, and some other stuff I'm not sure about. WELL, she doesn't take her diuretic as prescribed so her feet get swollen, and she retains water in her body that her kidneys are unable to flush out, when a new medication was introduced she goes "that's not my pill. I know what my pills are. you're trying to poison me." now, my grampa has never been the most patient of people, especially with stupid (it's a family trait), but he is trying, he is trying his best, and yes he explodes at her, does that help the situation? probably not, but it's what he knows to do to bring back some control into this nut house. SHE then afterward, gets all wide-eyed and tearful going why are you yelling at me, HAVING NO MEMORY WHAT SO EVER OF WHAT SHE JUST INSTIGATED!! AND this is a common theme! she squirrels away her money, and then claims it was stolen, when she gets into a foul mood she refuses to eat, refuses to take her medication, and prays (quite loudly) for God to come take her now, and why is he letting her suffer. She has these two stupid notebooks that she apparently "writes everything down in", doesn't matter if it's what happened or not, if it's written down, it's apparently what happened. She claims my Grampa has stolen them, ripped out pages, etc when it's HER DOING IT!!

AND SHE ACCUSES MY MOTHER! MY MOTHER WHO IN REALITY SHOULD BE FURIOUS AT HER PARENTS FOR WHAT THEY'VE DONE TO HER IN THE PAST BUT INSTEAD IS TAKING CARE OF THEM (because she's a fucking saint), of being a manipulative snake in the grass who's in league with my Grampa to put her away, or take all her money, or blah blah blah blah blah blah blah!! 

Now, my qualm with this is, I am not the only grandchild, I have an older cousin, and then five younger cousins (who are awful spoiled, ungrateful little shits), now my older cousin, she's....special. I don't mean on the autism scale, I mean she makes really stupid decisions and then wonders why her life is like this, and then blames everyone else BUT herself for her own choices. smart. I know. HOWEVER, she is my Grandmother's favorite, BUT she (my cousin), is so wrapped up in her upcoming marriage next July and going to go see her fiancee in England over Christmas (the third time she's gone, get we've never met this girl), that she doesn't make the time to see my/our grandparents, DESPITE THE FACT their both in their 80s, mediocre health, and my Grandmother is declining at a severe rate mentally. My oldest cousin is all, it'll get better tra-la-la, IT'S SO FRUSTRATING!!! Also my oldest cousin, on facebook, spews these disgusting rants about how her family is so important, and family this and family that, that when I see it I get a cavity. AND THEN SHE COMPLETELY IGNORES MY GRANDPARENTS!! (I love how I keep saying mine, heh.) now, what inspired this rant is that this week alone, my Grandmother's nut job behavior has gone from okay fine whatever to WTF IS YOUR PROBLEM!

This has been going on for a while that she thinks Grampa has a girlfriend who lives with Mum, (he doesn't.), that he's going out and cheating on her (he doesn't.), that he's stealing all her money and her credit cards (she squirrels them away and then doesn't remember where she's put it.) THIS WEEK, this FUCKING CRAZY LADY has stolen and hid his teeth, his car keys, his CREDIT CARD (they both do everything on credit card, they only have a client card for their banking), because she thought he and Mum were going to go drop her off in a home and go k thanks bye. WELL what was actually going on is that my Grandma is part of a seniors program called P.E.P, it's a seniors enrichment program for those who was cognitively disabled, they bring in artists, and physio- therapists and dieticians, etc. So, she didn't want to go to P.E.P, because she thought my Grampa was up to something, well what was going on was he and Mum were going to go grocery shopping, so that after P.E.P, he and Grandma could go to the bank, she could take out some money to go gambling tomorrow with her friend and be social, WELL, that's not happening at all now. She also threatened to run away, so Mum (who's in her late 50s and needs all the sleep she can because she has insomnia and semi-high blood pressure from stress), STAYED AWAY ALL NIGHT because of this crazy lady!! 

now why am I this frustrated? BECAUSE IT'S ONLY MUM AND GRAMPA TAKING CARE OF THIS NUT JOB!! I will admit, I have never really liked my grandmother, I always thought she was mean, and she was very manipulative of me when I was little, especially emotionally, and she would say I was stupid by referring to my head as a flower pot when I didn't understand math (turns out I have a learning disability that prevents me from grasping logic, such as math, puzzles etc), and making me feel as if I was a burden to my mother, and basically a bad kid (despite my mom telling me otherwise.) HOWEVER, as I said before, I AM NOT THE ONLY GRANDCHILD, if we are a family as some people claim, and claim that we cannot choose our family, WHERE THE FUCK IS EVERYONE ELSE!?!?!?!!