Goodbye Letter
While many have advised against this, I sat here today and wrote my STBX a rather short letter. I will give it to him after the divorce is finalized. I included a sentence at the beginning of the letter letting him know that I do not care if he posts it on FaceBook or shows it to his new girlfriend. These are my feelings, I am not ashamed of them nor do I care who knows them. It pretty much thanks him for the last 16 years, states that I love him and I wish him well in the next chapter of his life. After I finished writing the letter, I felt relieved. I would like to akin it to closure, but I am not quite sure if that is the right word. At least not now. I do not expect a reply back and I am fine with that. Just think, almost 5 months ago, I did not know how I would make it till the next day without him. Yet today, I am stronger and more confident that I will be okay without him. It is amazing what time, support and determination can do to a person.
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If it felt good to write the letter, I say ok. I understand that completely. I don\'t think it will give you closure though but as long as you do not expect a response from him and you get some peace, good for you. You are one of the strongest people on DS so want to believe this is a good decision.
You are fine without him.
Better off without him.
He does not deserve to know how you are or how you feel.
But if telling him things brings you some sense of peace, go for it Sister.
I agree, he does not deserve to know what is going on in your mind. Send it if you think it will bring you peace. And yes, you are better off without him. I am glad you are feeling stronger.