golf outing fundraisers

Yesterday ~ I volunteered and my husband golfed in the suicide prevention organization.  It went well and we had fun.  The money raised is to educated area school students on the "how to" to help a friend in need because when a teen is suffering they commonly share their suicidal thoughts to a friend.  The friend is the one who acts.  Pretty smart.  I know my son, when he was in high school shared it with a friend.  The friend didn't let us know, however.  I found out about it by reading his instant messages.  It was his older brother that alerted me and showed me how to get on it.  How he knew - I don't know.  What I did know - was something wasn't right but I didn't suspect that.  
Saturday I will again (how ironic) be volunteering at the other outing for the group that raises funds for families of adolescents who need drug treatment.  The funds we give are only for what the families insurance doesn't cover.  So expensive.  The teens in our area only receive up to 45 days of treatment.  
In another city and state (actually my hometown) the teens and young adults receive as much as 10 months - for court ordered treatment!  And (I really don't know how the others afford it) but I talked to the director of the facility and she said that kids who aren't court ordered typically stay that long as well.  And she said they don't turn down any kid whose family cannot pay.  Amazing.

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bambusue
bambusue

Sorry i have been busy, and i can see you are too. The activity you do is not lost. I was a drug counselor of adolescents at the same time my son was going from bad to worse. I too found it ironic all over the place. It is also hard to put aside your worries about your own situation in order to be effective elsewhere, but hang in there.
As far as J, there are the Stages of Change. I would say he is in Contemplation. you can Google that and read about it. Otherwise known as Motivational Interviewing. It helps one get perspective on what happens before the Big Change of deciding to get help and quit. He seems to be going back and forth between a couple stages, and of course, the addiction has its pull as well.
HOpe this helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Motivational interviewing is a good option especially if the 12 step program is not of interest/effective. But it does involve getting someone to really work on their ambivalence about changing their behaviors/engaging in therapeutic activities. Hope the therapist and medication are effective! Take Care!!