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My dream is to see our son thrive and he can't do it in this environment. My husband, again, thinks that T can pull it off here. I don't see it but I do know where he's coming from. He doesn't want him to leave. This time I don't either. As crazy as it sounds - being that all he's put me through - I am having a difficult time with this one. The last few times I couldn't get him out of the house soon enough because he needed treatment so badly. My heart wants him here not only because I'll miss him and I know he will be extremely upset about having to go. My head, however, knows we HAVE to do something. The court is helping to do that but if T refuses to go to treatment and decides to stand before a judge and make his "case"...he could be sent to a correctional facility. And if he chooses to go to court -- it will take a month or more for that to happen.
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Here are questions for thought, not reply or discussion on my part.......
Perhaps you have become overly accustomed to the new norm which is really not a healthy situation.....
Perhaps you are thinking that if he goes away and is not successful then you might give up hope.....
Is he bullying his parents by manipulating their emotions (fear and love) to change the status quo at home to suit his needs?
How long are you willing to put up with him doing his own thing, disrespecting your rules and doing nothing to enable himself to be self sufficient in the future (attend school, after school job)?
Who\'s interests are being served if he continues on the path he is on now?
What are your other options or do you believe that you can intervene to set him on a better path without outside intervention/assistance?
Are you putting off a decision because it might not be the best decision and so you are leaving it up to others to decide for you?
I don\'t know what the answers are or what is in his best interest. I can only appreciate the enormity of the decisions/indecisions that you are faced with.
Thanksgiving is a really bad time to have to be separated from family! You are in my thoughts!