From enabler to a better Father..
Well guess it's hig time I pratice what I be preachin and step up to the plate...See I'm an enabler...meaning thru my actions or lack of ... I encourage my 18 year old son to be a slacker...a mooch... and down right lazy... Yepp...See with my disabilities, chronic pain, and abusive past, I'd rather just go with the flow than to make waves.......Sooo...I have to find some positive ways to encourage my son to help out around the house and to learn to get ready of a life of his own...To day is the first of the Or Else .... motivators I'm planing on using... I'm gonna get with our therapist tommorrow and see if they have some constructive advice to use in this area... I'm taking my son along so we can explore these new ideas together...and he will have to comply or else...bye bye cabe and computer use... I'll disconnect em if I have too... time to be a father and make those hard decisions I'm always avoiding cause I love him so much ... I don't know where I'm gonna find the energy to do this, but somehow I must...I realise loving a child sometimes mean taking an unpopular course of action to encourage personal growth... and learning... So wish me luck... hey dang it workin already! he just got up and went to do a sink load of dishes.. with out me yellin at him... (thank ya Lord...for real) I'm gonna go fall out ....best wishes and many blessing russ
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