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So great: In the words of Pushing Daisies, The facts are these: He is not my problem. I no longer put up with his behaviour. I don't have to, I don't want to - and I will not. He will never thank me for leaving and will never be grateful for the love and kindness I gave him. And it’s not my problem. I am proud of myself for building courage and for leaving him. I AM TRUE TO MYSELF. Expect the worst from him. It’s the most I can count on. I might lose people in my life. It will hurt. But it will be okay. It’s time to move on. I have nothing at all that I need to prove to anyone. No one else knows the real him and I am not here to show them. It’s their problem. People can judge me all they like, it’s just their opinion. It’s not fact. I am stronger than any of this. I refuse to waste any further energy. I am free. I am a great person. I love and respect myself. I glide through this episode because I am not a victim. No one else can judge me. They weren’t there. And they don’t know. I concentrate on being kind to myself and true to myself.
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Isn\'t it great I printed it off after seeing it in the same post..and have it on my bedroom wall now..and I read it whenever I pass it...
\'Expect the worst from him. Its the most I can count on\' has come true for me..and all the other things like \'I refuse to waste any further energy\'...Helps me so much...
The moving on is very hard..but easier when you know you really have no choice...I would have stayed, if he had been able to be decent, or had been able to love without also being abusive...So its not our fault..its working with the unworkable..Not possible..
It just has to be let go..and moving on just has to be done..
I hope your sense of peace is still growing..as mine is..I keep remembering how he let me down, again and again..I even dream about it..and how he increased his hurtful behaviours..who can stay with that?..who can work with that?..and who deserves that?..
Not me..not you..not us...
Its good to keep going forward..and I \'am proud of myself for building courage and for leaving him\'
Hope you still are too...xx