Forgiveness

Thanks for all you do for our group.  A forgiveness-laughter site, along with all the other stuff is always awesome.  It is very hard at times to move on after we have experienced any type of trauma.  I am 30-35 years past (The years the very bad things seemed to happen to me) most of my trauma years.  I cried and grieved, and did healing work today.  It is a process, a journey, it is life.  It is just as you said, life itself wounds us all.  I guess I would put it in a differing light than, 'wounds' us, however, most people use wounded etc. for expression of their current experience with the life experience.  I cannot, and I work very hard not be the victim in any of my experiences anymore.  I can't do it.  It makes my body, my spirit, my soul, and my mind ill.  I have just learned for myself that any time I am looking outside of my own heart & soul for answers or for reasons for why some thing is happening to me...... I will not find the answer, the solution, or the peace I am searching for.... it's not "out there".... it is inside me, in the place where God's Grace resides, inside me.  All my solutions and answers are there. Most especially that is where the forgiveness of others resides, the forgiveness of others wounding me or their wounds being forced upon me...... that forgiveness is only found inside me where God's Grace resides, in my heart & soul.  It cannot be found while blaming others for my reactions to my life experience.  I guess it may almost sound cold and cruel especially if someone's 'wounds'  are fresh, & new........ But, I have had to find something "good,"  or "God-like", in all my experiences to be able to live with them and continue to live my life, however limited it may be.  Maybe I am completely off center for most others and their experiences.  Maybe they need to be angry and unforgiving to be able to continue to walk their path... all I know is what works for me.I hope you are doing well and find God's ( Spirit's, whatever you believe in) Light and Love ans healing energy today and everyday.In Love, Light, Truth, & Service,'Stubborn' TerrieAnnralop-------------------------------------On 08/28/11, 03:51pm Beaumont wrote:Beaumont's message to A Laughter Club members:That's why we have topics such as 'Words Heal' and 'Physical Pain Humor' in A Laughter Club.Now we've added 'Forgiveness Humor' to our humor discussion topics. Fogiveness is not an easy thing. As an adult survivor of child abuse, I can tell you that neither forgetting nor forgiving comes easily to me, especially since the abusers are still likely to commit similar abuse if they ever have an opportunity to do so again. So sometimes we can't forgive until time and circumstances have changed. Some of you will understand, having survived various circumstances, whether it's having been a victim of crime, bullying, divorce, assault, harassment, stalking, or other types of abuse. You may only be able to begin to forgive and foget once you know for sure in your mind that it won't happen again. I would never tell anyone that they must forgive and forget and move on - only the affected individual can determine when or whether he or she is ready.A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, so 'Forgiveness Humor' is sprinkled with a little humor.To read or participate in 'Forgiveness Humor' or any of our other humor topics, or to start your own humor topic, please click on the link here:www.dailystrength.org/groups/laughterclubA Laughter Club...to brighter tomorrows!Thanks for all you do for our group.  A forgiveness-laughter site, along with all the other stuff is always awesome.  It is very hard at times to move on after we have experienced any type of trauma.  I am 30-35 years past (The years the very bad things seemed to happen to me) most of my trauma years.  I cried and grieved, and did healing work today.  It is a process, a journey, it is life.  It is just as you said, life itself wounds us all.  I guess I would put it in a differing light than, 'wounds' us, however, most people use wounded etc. for expression of their current experience with the life experience.  I cannot, and I work very hard not be the victim in any of my experiences anymore.  I can't do it.  It makes my body, my spirit, my soul, and my mind ill.  I have just learned for myself that any time I am looking outside of my own heart & soul for answers or for reasons for why some thing is happening to me...... I will not find the answer, the solution, or the peace I am searching for.... it's not "out there".... it is inside me, in the place where God's Grace resides, inside me.  All my solutions and answers are there. Most especially that is where the forgiveness of others resides, the forgiveness of others wounding me or their wounds being forced upon me...... that forgiveness is only found inside me where God's Grace resides, in my heart & soul.  It cannot be found while blaming others for my reactions to my life experience.  I guess it may almost sound cold and cruel especially if someone's 'wounds'  are fresh, & new........ But, I have had to find something "good,"  or "God-like", in all my experiences to be able to live with them and continue to live my life, however limited it may be.  Maybe I am completely off center for most others and their experiences.  Maybe they need to be angry and unforgiving to be able to continue to walk their path... all I know is what works for me.I hope you are doing well and find God's ( Spirit's, whatever you believe in) Light and Love ans healing energy today and everyday.In Love, Light, Truth, & Service,'Stubborn' TerrieAnnralop-------------------------------------On 08/28/11, 03:51pm Beaumont wrote:Beaumont's message to A Laughter Club members:That's why we have topics such as 'Words Heal' and 'Physical Pain Humor' in A Laughter Club.Now we've added 'Forgiveness Humor' to our humor discussion topics. Fogiveness is not an easy thing. As an adult survivor of child abuse, I can tell you that neither forgetting nor forgiving comes easily to me, especially since the abusers are still likely to commit similar abuse if they ever have an opportunity to do so again. So sometimes we can't forgive until time and circumstances have changed. Some of you will understand, having survived various circumstances, whether it's having been a victim of crime, bullying, divorce, assault, harassment, stalking, or other types of abuse. You may only be able to begin to forgive and foget once you know for sure in your mind that it won't happen again. I would never tell anyone that they must forgive and forget and move on - only the affected individual can determine when or whether he or she is ready.A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, so 'Forgiveness Humor' is sprinkled with a little humor.To read or participate in 'Forgiveness Humor' or any of our other humor topics, or to start your own humor topic, please click on the link here:www.dailystrength.org/groups/laughterclubA Laughter Club...to brighter tomorrows!Thanks for all you do for our group.  A forgiveness-laughter site, along with all the other stuff is always awesome.  It is very hard at times to move on after we have experienced any type of trauma.  I am 30-35 years past (The years the very bad things seemed to happen to me) most of my trauma years.  I cried and grieved, and did healing work today.  It is a process, a journey, it is life.  It is just as you said, life itself wounds us all.  I guess I would put it in a differing light than, 'wounds' us, however, most people use wounded etc. for expression of their current experience with the life experience.  I cannot, and I work very hard not be the victim in any of my experiences anymore.  I can't do it.  It makes my body, my spirit, my soul, and my mind ill.  I have just learned for myself that any time I am looking outside of my own heart & soul for answers or for reasons for why some thing is happening to me...... I will not find the answer, the solution, or the peace I am searching for.... it's not "out there".... it is inside me, in the place where God's Grace resides, inside me.  All my solutions and answers are there. Most especially that is where the forgiveness of others resides, the forgiveness of others wounding me or their wounds being forced upon me...... that forgiveness is only found inside me where God's Grace resides, in my heart & soul.  It cannot be found while blaming others for my reactions to my life experience.  I guess it may almost sound cold and cruel especially if someone's 'wounds'  are fresh, & new........ But, I have had to find something "good,"  or "God-like", in all my experiences to be able to live with them and continue to live my life, however limited it may be.  Maybe I am completely off center for most others and their experiences.  Maybe they need to be angry and unforgiving to be able to continue to walk their path... all I know is what works for me.I hope you are doing well and find God's ( Spirit's, whatever you believe in) Light and Love ans healing energy today and everyday.In Love, Light, Truth, & Service,'Stubborn' TerrieAnnralop-------------------------------------On 08/28/11, 03:51pm Beaumont wrote:Beaumont's message to A Laughter Club members:That's why we have topics such as 'Words Heal' and 'Physical Pain Humor' in A Laughter Club.Now we've added 'Forgiveness Humor' to our humor discussion topics. Fogiveness is not an easy thing. As an adult survivor of child abuse, I can tell you that neither forgetting nor forgiving comes easily to me, especially since the abusers are still likely to commit similar abuse if they ever have an opportunity to do so again. So sometimes we can't forgive until time and circumstances have changed. Some of you will understand, having survived various circumstances, whether it's having been a victim of crime, bullying, divorce, assault, harassment, stalking, or other types of abuse. You may only be able to begin to forgive and foget once you know for sure in your mind that it won't happen again. I would never tell anyone that they must forgive and forget and move on - only the affected individual can determine when or whether he or she is ready.A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, so 'Forgiveness Humor' is sprinkled with a little humor.To read or participate in 'Forgiveness Humor' or any of our other humor topics, or to start your own humor topic, please click on the link here:www.dailystrength.org/groups/laughterclubA Laughter Club...to brighter tomorrows!