Final trip home for husband.
This weekend, my 2 sons and myself make the trip to Oklahoma to take part of Chuck's ashes down there to be buried over his parent's graves. Part of him is now resting eternally in the area where he grew up. The remainder of his ashes will be scattered in the ocean and possibly some in the Mississippi.
Some of Chuck's relatives came to the cemetary, so we had a little ceremony. Chuck's brother-in-law said a prayer. We took some balloons for everyone, so each released a couple of balloons. That was beautiful to see as they drifted upward towards the sky. They were multi-colored, so that added to the beauty. We sold balloons at flea markets and craft sales; Chuck also enjoyed flying kites, so doing this had meaning, plus I think it is a nice thing to do. I had taken a silk flower wreath and vase of flowers to put near the cremains, plus fixed up some bouquets of fresh varigated mini carnations (which was his favorite flower). His sister also had a silk spray to place over the area. The weather was gorgeous and so nice that some of his family came. I am tired after making the trip. It's a 12 hr trip from here. We did stop in Wichita Friday and then went down to OK on Saturday morning, coming back to Ks Saturday. Yesterday, the boys and I drove back home, which is a 9 hr. trip.
It's comforting to know that part of hime is now home, hopefully being blessed with eternal rest and peace.
Some of Chuck's relatives came to the cemetary, so we had a little ceremony. Chuck's brother-in-law said a prayer. We took some balloons for everyone, so each released a couple of balloons. That was beautiful to see as they drifted upward towards the sky. They were multi-colored, so that added to the beauty. We sold balloons at flea markets and craft sales; Chuck also enjoyed flying kites, so doing this had meaning, plus I think it is a nice thing to do. I had taken a silk flower wreath and vase of flowers to put near the cremains, plus fixed up some bouquets of fresh varigated mini carnations (which was his favorite flower). His sister also had a silk spray to place over the area. The weather was gorgeous and so nice that some of his family came. I am tired after making the trip. It's a 12 hr trip from here. We did stop in Wichita Friday and then went down to OK on Saturday morning, coming back to Ks Saturday. Yesterday, the boys and I drove back home, which is a 9 hr. trip.
It's comforting to know that part of hime is now home, hopefully being blessed with eternal rest and peace.
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It\'s always the hardest part I think when we cremate them is to part with those ashes. I kept some of my husbands ...we scattered some in several places at his request and buried most of them but I kept some to be buried in my urn with me when it is my time to go...I want us to be together forever...hugs Ellen
I\'m not looking forward to doing that - it is going to be hard. I\'m proud of you and it sounds like it ended up being a beautiful day with family. SUE
I am happy this part of things is over for you is a hard time letting go of our loved ones. The balloons I think are good as we tend to watch them as they float to the heavens. KInd of a peaceful feeling. When my husband passed away a couple of the grandkids wrote their goodbyes and placed them inside the balloons before they released them.
take care gentle hugs
Thankyou for taking the time to read my journal and for your thoughtful replies. Today, I drove over to the Mississippi to a boat landing. There was a peaceful area near the the landing, so I scattered some of Chuck\'s ashes. The drive over there was meaningful...we had rode that way on our motorcycles. He had also fished in the Mississippi. I think he wanted to be scattered there, because eventually the Mississippi goes to the ocean. I don\'t think that he will ever get to the ocean where I scattered him, but anyway he is there. My oldest will be taking some I have saved to the Pacific when he goes on a trip out that way he has planned for next spring.
Yes, it is hard to let go of the ashes, but he was gone the day he took his last breath. These were just his mortal remains and I wanted to honor his wishes. Rest peacefully, my soulmate.