Fighting with son again
So tired of it. Found my son with his Gameboy in his bed again. So against the rules. Got mad at him, but he is mad at me. Why well I took the game out of the Gameboy without doing it right so may have lost some of his game. Told him I thought he had an addiction problem with video games. Geez plays them every single minute I am near him. Also told him I didn't understand why he has to break the rules except that he "doesn't care what I think" which is what he said to me the other day. Said all this quietly in a hurt tone of voice, did not yell or even tell him I was punishing him for disobeying rules again.
He was just shaking with rage and stomped out to his car. I followed him to try and talk to him and he said he was mad about the game and what I said to him. Geez I should be the one raging. He got in the car and I went inside. Then was in there hitting the steering wheel and throwing himself about. I saw him out the window and went out to try to talk to him again and he drove away as I got to the door. Almost hit me with the car. My husband said he didn't see me when he pulled away. Oh yes he did that is why he drove off.
Do not know what to do about him. He is supposedly going to live in the house after he turns 18 in 2 weeks, but don't know if he can. I thought my ADHD son was difficult, but at least his moods were right out there for everyone to see. This one is so dark. Never know what he is thinking.
Also don't know what to do about tonight. He had a sort of girlfriend a while back. Refused to talk about her. I know she likes him, very open about it, but not sure what he thinks of her and he has refused to talk about it. We hasn't seen her in months (divorce issues with her parents) and asked to go see her tonight in a play. I said sure I'd take him. Now don't know if I should and what's more don't know if that is what this ia all about. He just left the Gameboy right in the middle of his bed like he wanted me to see it. Didn't even try to hide it. Does he want punished? Maybe he wants me to ground him so he can't see this girl after all? I just don't know and he doesn't talk at all.
Wonder if he will even come home after school he was so angry. And what do I do then? Ignore it, try to talk about it, punish him or not? Throw up my hands and say he is almost 18 and not my problem? And how do I handle another 4 years of this attitude?
He was just shaking with rage and stomped out to his car. I followed him to try and talk to him and he said he was mad about the game and what I said to him. Geez I should be the one raging. He got in the car and I went inside. Then was in there hitting the steering wheel and throwing himself about. I saw him out the window and went out to try to talk to him again and he drove away as I got to the door. Almost hit me with the car. My husband said he didn't see me when he pulled away. Oh yes he did that is why he drove off.
Do not know what to do about him. He is supposedly going to live in the house after he turns 18 in 2 weeks, but don't know if he can. I thought my ADHD son was difficult, but at least his moods were right out there for everyone to see. This one is so dark. Never know what he is thinking.
Also don't know what to do about tonight. He had a sort of girlfriend a while back. Refused to talk about her. I know she likes him, very open about it, but not sure what he thinks of her and he has refused to talk about it. We hasn't seen her in months (divorce issues with her parents) and asked to go see her tonight in a play. I said sure I'd take him. Now don't know if I should and what's more don't know if that is what this ia all about. He just left the Gameboy right in the middle of his bed like he wanted me to see it. Didn't even try to hide it. Does he want punished? Maybe he wants me to ground him so he can't see this girl after all? I just don't know and he doesn't talk at all.
Wonder if he will even come home after school he was so angry. And what do I do then? Ignore it, try to talk about it, punish him or not? Throw up my hands and say he is almost 18 and not my problem? And how do I handle another 4 years of this attitude?
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I\'m sorry about the fight with your son.i know how upsetting it can be.I hate the afterwards times when I do argue with my boys.I have the same rules about video games and i-phones and also i-pads.none after bedtime.I have turned off the x-box a few times in an angry moment and ruined their \'progress\"......they can get back to where they were........It does sound like there is more going on here than just the game..hard to know what the real issue is when they wont open up.sounds just like my 16 year old.he is moody and will not talk much.I get the everything is fine ALL the time.even when he\'s walking around looking like death.......give it some time-things will cool down.my advice would be to go to see the play tonight and now make the video game argument too big.We gotta pick our battles maybe..i hope things blow over soon for you and you are feeling better..hugs xx caring thoughts xx
sorry about typos.i meant not make the video game disobeyment too big.
Thank you so much. I always feel like I have no one to talk to. My husband just brushed it off like why was I upset, my middle son found me crying and told me I need to be tough and stop caring cause the youngest doesn\'t care about anything like I can just turn off the fact that I am worried about him. It means a lot that you took the time to read about my troubles. I will offer to take him to the play if he still wants to go. He will be stuck in the car with me for 2 hours, that might not be too much fun, but maybe we can at least get back to him speaking to me.
Kids at nearly 18 have hormones all over the map. It\'s just a hard age and really just getting him through it... is mainly it. I\'ve been through it with my younger son and there were plenty of tantrums and anger. My older son at 19 dropped off the map for about a year because he was with a pretty toxic girlfriend. They both made it through it.... You son will too. He knows you love him. Has he already graduated from hs?
Enjoy the play if you decide to go.maybe it will be a chance for some bonding..hugsxx
He graduates in 2 weeks but plans to live at home for at least a while more. Didn\'t go through this cold anger thikng with either of my other boys.
Yeah, unfortunately, you could have had eight kids and they\'d all be different. He\'ll work through it.
As a \"gamer\" it does suck if the game is cut short :) Maybe next time tell him he has 10 minutes to finish up and save his game...of course at 18 years old we were ALL pains in the asses!!! Take it easy on yourself P! Kids will be kids!