Fight with my mom and my brother Clayton

 Well I spoke with Val last night and she had a talk with my mother about her not going back to Clayton because he wont change his ways. He wont marry her, wont slow down on his drinking and has a shitty attitude. My mother told her that she had a real good teacher hanging over with me because I havent been able to find anyone for marriage purposes in 20 years. Hello, I was with Dakotas dad for 20 years and now I have been with Al for 4 years.I dont know what gives her the right to judge me and it really pissed me off. I havent been that close to my mother since she got married to her latest husband of 4 years and became a born again Mormom.. More like a moron..  Her and Clayton have always blamed me for his divorce from Teresa as I took her to a club I worked at and she asked the boss for a job as a food server and then she met a guy and left Clayton and married him. I didnt introduce her to him or tell her I would get her a job so I cant possibly see how that would be my fault. If she was looking for someone new how could I have stopped it or how would I have ever known? I loved Teresa and when she left Clayton, I also lost her, it was very painful, but I dont know how I could have been the cause.Anyway so I called my mom and told her off and then I called Clayton and told him the same thing. When Val comes over to my house she helps me around the house and goes with me and Al to feed the cows. She is lonely by herself so she comes to my place. How is that wrong?.. I am so pissed off that my mother and brother talk behind my back. I have done nothing but tried to get Clayton to see that his drinking problem is getting him no where but that I love him. I wrote my mother $100 check for mothers day and then she talks behind my back. I had Clayton move in with my boy Dakota at my house so he wouldnt have to pay rent. He stayed for a few days and then went to a motel.. I have done nothing but try to be a friend, a sister and a daughter and what happens? They talk behind my back. I have had it and Im not talking to them again unless they apologize.. Im done period.. The kitties are still darling and make me laugh every day. Although they are learning to use the kitty litter box they are also pooping behind my couch. I dont like that much but will keep working on them. Well thats about it for today.. I have therapy this afternoon for my back and hip pain.. Hope it helps.. This is my story and Im sticking with it.. I love you all.I usually say play nice as you never know when someone is going to be gone from your life but I guess I didnt play nice last night.. Oh well, what can I say? They should have played fair.. Y'Vonne