feeling? really hurt

So I went to Bible study tonight and saw one of my friends I haven't seen for awhile. She knows about my ED and that I have been in treatment and doing after care. I have had a few relapses and just started seeing my nutritionist again. She's got me started on a meal plan again. I had a prayer request for faith and trusting that God will provide. I have been struggling financiallly I know like everyone else. Can't afford to go to The Center to see my nutritionist, doctor, ED groups or my councilor who I have been really working on deep issues with lately. I can hardly afford food right now and thats a struggle in itself to not just say forget it and not even try to make it work to buy food.But what really hurt was when I told her I couldn't afford to go to The Center she said well maybe that's a good nthing to force you to stand on your own and not expect everyone there to fix your problems. I don't even know how to take that. Right now I just feel like crap

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I\'m sorry to here about your situation. But this lady doesn\'t know what your going through. She has no idea. I tried therapy for the first time this summer and got frustrated and had a friend tell me that yeah they don\'t do anything anyway you have to help yourself. So I stopped therapy and now I\'m worse than ever. No one can fix our problems, but they can sure help us help ourselves and that\'s what we need.
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Firstly what the lady said was most insensitive and certainly not very christian, and I dont think you should even hold onto her words at all, she is ignorant of your plight. Please focus on the here and now for you, can you look at ways of being more resourceful with your money, and I dont mean by not buying food, budgeting more carefully am sure you can get advice on this either internet or local community workshops. You have to fight htis illness whichever way you can and if your therapy is helpful talk to them about oyur financial constraints. I can\'t send you money but I can send you love and a great big HUG xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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I\'m sorry to hear that =( just don\'t let it get to you. Don\'t start thinking about drawing back or trying not to ask for any help when you need it. just because she made a comment that wasn\'t true (and not to mention, very very rude and uncalled for) does not mean you should do worse or have to go with out the help you need. Don\'t feel like she was right. Don\'t even think that.

I\'m a christian too and I know God\'s purpose for his church is to glorify him and to reach out and bring help to those who need it (both spiritual help and any other service). What she said does not in any way glorify God. And don\'t feel like you can\'t talk about your problems at bible study. If not to help fix problems and grow closer to God, what would be the point of the Bible study.

I\'m so sorry she said that and i hope you are ok.

much love,
Mikiki
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Typical, people who have never experienced ED think it is just like turning a light switch on and off.