Feeling Lousy Today

I have been dealing with my daughter-in-law's family these past several days and although they have not been outright mean or nasty, they have done a number on me indicating that I don't belong. Normally I wouldn't care, but there is a grandson involved. It's mostly the mother, the woman must maintain her top spot with everything family. She and her husband had nine children, eight males and my daughter-in-law, all adults now, most are married with children so it's a big family. The kind of stick  together family where no one can piss without Mom and Dad being informed. They have assimilated my son and grandson. Yes, assimilated, like the Borg on Star Trek. Thing is, I could like the mom and really enjoy her company if she wasn't always making a point of her position.  I don't give a crap who my son or grandson loves more, or who they spend more time with, I just would like to see my grandson once in a while without having to wade through the "ties that bind" drek. I come from a small family where we were all free. I thank my mother and father for that. This tribal dynamic, blah, it's a pain in the butt.