Feeling Frustrated & Confused
To the few who read my journals...does anyone have times where you just simply really wonder abt family in general. Times where they leave you feeling like you either want to shake your head in a sort of I give up attitude, or maybe bang your head against the wall in frustration or just simply scream at all of them. I'm going thru that right now & it's so FRUSTRATING...... My youngest sister split with her sort of other half abt a month ago, I just found out yesterday. They'd been living together for abt 13 yrs. He was a useless alcoholic who's sole purpose in life was to drag my sister down with him but she worshipped the ground he drank on. Thank our Lord at least she didn't drink, she had to support him hence she never had anything. You'd think that sisters would lean on each other, share, etc. etc. but alas she's been relying on her caretaker & caretakers hubby who's she sort of friends with. Not sure how I felt when she said that they've been her rock this last while, hmmm. Not sure how I felt either when she made reference to our dad keeping her in wine off & on to help her thru it. OK, am I so wrong in thinking that a somewhat normal family would immediately rally together. Have I been watching too many movies in thinking that a dad shd call the others & say lets rally together to help youngest sister. Am I so wrong in thinking that rather then wine a better thing to do would be encouragement to pick herself up, etc. etc., maybe help look up counselling, etc. etc. I don't know, I just don't know. My other sister & I have told her we're there for her, call us whatever but somehow I don't think she will. I've a gut feeling she'll stay at arms length. I guess too what doesn't help is having a non-confrontational dad, better to sweep it under the carpet & pretend all is sort of OK. OK enough is enough of this whining. I got a call fr my rheumy's office today & they've got a cancellation this coming Thurs so they're scheduling me in so I can get the results of my MRI on my hip. I've already pretty much decided that if there's something that can be done to fix whatever it is be it surgery, therapy, whatever then I want to go ahead. To me it would be one less pain area to put up with. I've got no choice to live with my lower back/pelvic area so if I can solve the hip then bonus. Can't remember if I journaled that the CT scan on my lower back/pelvic area showed that I've got a disc & vertebrae thats bulging away fr the spinal cord. There's no way I'm having surgery to fuse that area, not risking that, no way. Anywho I guess that shd do it for now, but suffice to say, I will fight the fight, I will stay strong & charge ahead. I will follow the Lord as my leader & persevere on to win. Love ya all.
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hi kitty i know to well about family,i know how frustrating it is! and your a good friend,and i hope everything turns out ok,hugs,liz.
Wow, I\'ve been out of the loop. I didn\'t know about your sister. I do hope and pray that she will realize that family sticks together. Best to lose him and start having a life. I know it\'s so frustrating. I\'m here if you want to chat.
Hugs and love Nancy
I have the same feelings about my family. we appear normal, but surely don\'t act it. I\'ve never had that hallmark family experience that we see on TV but I imagine that some people have it, just not really anybody I know personally. Sometimes I think that ppl, when in crisis, go to folks who will tell them what they will want to hear, or allow them to do things that are easy, but not the best, like drinking, you know? could be she knew her sisters would be frank and truthful with her and she didn\'t want to hear that, she\'d rather hear what was easy, maybe. I\'m reading that thing by Joyce Meyer about how not to get offended, and it\'s great, but man, is it hard! Try to think of it as Her issues, and Her avoidance with the right things, not her trying to offend on purpose.
I\'m glad to hear that if they can fix part of the problem you will plow forward! I\'d like to see you get some relief! Have you thought any more about acupuncture or therapy like yoga stretches to help that area any? I know it helps some, and maybe not some others.
Keep on looking above, it\'s the best advice any of us can give right? Thanks for always being there for me and keeping us up to date on what\'s going on with you.
hugs, m
family!1 Who can understand them so many diffrent relationships.. Sorry your sisiter doesn\'t want your help. I know what she is missing , all the love and support you would give her , next best thing is to pray for her. I wish it will all work out the way you want it to. I am here if you need me. Love n hugs and wishes and dreams, Frieda