feeling alone
i hope i can get through this. i just hate how im having trouble losing weight. and im having trouble making friends here. i really hate it, cuz im just so sick of being alone and not having alot to do or anyone to hangout with, im trying so hard to lose weight because then maybe when i go out people will want to be friends with me. since ill look better because ill be thinner. i hope losing weight will work for making friends because i can't think of what else to do since everything i have tryed hasnt worked so i really hope that if i can get thin than people will want to be with me more and make more time for me and that new people will want to get to know me. cuz all the friends i had haven't made anytime for me at all. im always in the bottom of the list and i am so sick of it. i just want a friend i can be close with and for that friend to have time for me and to put forth the same amount of energy i am putting in. because it seems like i am always doing more of that. and it hurts so much.
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I will tell you straight. Losing weight won\'t help you make friends. True friends love you no matter what you look like. I was 80 lbs overweight, and I went to my new church, and the people loved me and accepted me. They didn\'t care. I felt so good I actually lost the weight, because I stopped looking at the outside, and how ugly I was, and started to find good things about myself that other people were seeing. I am very content now, even though I could still lose a few more pounds.
I am not saying you shouldn\'t lose weight. If you are overweight, you should, but do it for your health - for your heart, so you don\'t get diabetes and things like that. And you need to exercise, to help keep the weight off. I think you can do it.
You have to give to get. Do an inventory of some things you can give people. Maybe you have a sense of humor, or your are helpful. I play flute and teach in my church, and it is a wonderful support. Look for the good in others, instead of wishing they could like you - encourage and support them. That is my advice.
Don\'t loose the weight to make new freinds. If you do that - that will just attract Superficial People- do you really want friends like that ? Where you have to be so Perfect? No.... Your Better than that. People should be your Friends because they Love you for Who You Are !!!! Only loose the weight for yourself - because you want to for yourself... is all.....
As far as being Lonely- I know how you feel - and it sucks ! I\'m going to write you an Email on that.... I\'m your friend- Love ya xo xo xo xo
a bunch of us are in touch on here all the time. why don\'t you join us? also try the games.
a laughter club has games,
take it easy games,
games for fun and relaxation
its another way to relate with another but no stress because the questions are so easy, like what is your favorite color, or how many stairs or the opposite of cold is, or word association. i\'m in the weight thing too.