February 12, 2010 - Why no progress?
Still anxious, still fighting it and still not winning. I started a new divorce support group last night -- DivorceLink. It's sponsored by the Catholic Church but isn't about religion, it's about you and healing and moving on. Had tried another one, Divorce Care, but that was too religious for my taste. This one actually has books. assignments, journalling. First assignment is to find a new hobby and make a new friend, by next Thursday! Can't think of a thing at this point. One of the biggest points they made was that this is definitely NOT the time to be entering into any kind of relationship. I understand that, I hear it from everyone and everything and yet what do you do when you so desperately need a hug and a break from all this and a girlfriend or sister just won't do?Just a little escape once in a while? Is that so bad? I am so tired of thinking about me and what I'm giong through and yet I can't stop it. I try to keep busy, my counsellor says that I am doing better than most in this position. But I'm still not feeling it. When will I have a life?
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Ok...I give this is too funny..Divorce..and Catholic.. In the same sentance. i think you might get excommunicated. And stop your blubbering..I\'m the biggest suck there ever was.. Just wondering if you had a high or low service? Cath
TTTT... these things take time... and apparently can\'t be rushed. you are making progress, you just don\'t see it
Hi jwalker! I was married 23 years.....have now been Divorced for 7 years........it does get better....I promise.... but IMHO it improves for each of us at different times....hard to heal and let go, I know! Glad you have Lexy and Joey.....I adopted Berkeley the Wonder Dog two years ago on Valentine\'s Day........ he is now my faithful companion......we walk the trails at Lake Hefner together!! Giant hugs of support from OKC!! Cindi
It will take more time. I\'m learning to hate that word. You are doing all the right things. It will happen when it happens. More time.
PS.......you can use me as the new friend for your DivorceLink assignment. How about photography as a new hobby? Do you have a digital camera?? Bet there are some fabulous photos of snow scenes in NY with the latest blizzard??? Not the Director of the World here......lol.....just a suggestion!! Cindi
Also playing around with acrylic paints on canvas is fun! It doesn\'t have to be realistic art, could be very contemporary stuff, with fun bold colors!
Another idea would be some exercise class or dance class. It would get you in good shape, and it would get you in a good mood!
I was just teasing earlier..Raised Catholic and you never said divorce or even hinted at that. bad Girls ..did that. Well, I\'m a class \"A\" bad girl 2 times.. Going to turn i to salt. Sounds like you need some family time. I\'m thinking of going and visiting mine next week. A few days with my mother I\'ll be
glad to be on my own. Just kiddding but I think you know what I mean. What ever happened to that handy man you met? Arent\' you glad your at this point rather than starting. Frustration. I\'m looking forward to meeting you in Vegas. With a last name like yours you must be irish.. I am..Next month is ours.. Go green or go home. Cath