FAMILY ISSUES AND MRI RESULTS

MRI came back showing it could be a cyst at L5 where I had the fusion and the nerve that controls the front of the foot..or called something else that I can not spell which can be caused by an injury.. I go for the second one due the injury happened on Jan 14 and the pain started Jan 15 on both front part of feet and big toes ,weakness and pain in legas and HEADACHES as the Spinal Fluid can be an issue.  I see the doctor APRIL 1. ( hummmApril Fools Day..just hope it can be fixed if not the last results that I have stayed away from for years is the Pain Pump..
If we do not go through enough my husbands daughter told him I was not welcome at her house..she told him 2 days before Christmas...do not know why..but once words like that have been spoken there is no  htaking them back.  She is just mean I guess, making him choose between me and her how selfish.  What is the answer, I have none..so tired of their his family treatment..we will be married 19 years in April they should have grown up but didn't.  I told him when he wants to go see them I will go with him but will stay at the motel..she only sees me maybe 10 days out of 365 and never but 3 days at the most at a time.  You would think an adult could just be respectable that short of time. For me I don't care.  I have not wanted to be around them for years because how they have treated me..but my husband is very hurt and angry. when it happened at Christmas time I told him I had tried to tell him how they treat me, he just did not want to believe his children would act that way...so I don't know where it goes from here...but I do not plan to see them again.  An article on my FACEBOOK. Toxic People and what to do..my feeling with us who have lost a child need no TOXIC PEOPLE in our lives..thanks for your thoughts and prayers, Sandi

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JennsMom66
JennsMom66

My step daughter and step son have been very mean to me also.. I have cut them off.. I don\'t need their crap as I have done nothing to deserve it.
Jimmy doesn\'t even talk to his father at this point (his decision, not ours) and I send Jim to see Janice alone.. unfortunately for us we only live about 20 minutes away, so more of an issue than you have...
Good luck with the doctor on 4/1... let us know what is happening.. and don\'t worry about the child (and no matter how old, she is acting like a child)...
Hugs, MaryLou
Mary4408
Mary4408

Cut her loose. Cut everyone loose who is not uplifting and loving of you and who you love in return. Bless your husband and be kind. I would not make holiday plans, why torture yourself. Allow your hubby to go on his own and you make plans with family or do volunteer work helping people on the holidays that need a meal or something...it will bring more joy than sitting in a Motel and dealing with poisonous people.
MomofJosh
MomofJosh

I don\'t think anyone deserves toxic people. Sometimes it just happens and if it is family, it is very difficult!
jmk1973
jmk1973

It is so hard, dealing with toxic, negative people. Even though Billy and I are getting a divorce, I am enjoying not having to deal with his cold treatment of me & his negative attitude. I do not know why either!!!
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

You are so right. We do not need toxic people in our lives.
I hope your health issues resolve positively!
Tight hugs,
Marlene
CFMOM2
CFMOM2

Yes we need to have only positive vibes around us to continue this journey. Hoping you have some relief from your pain. Peace, Kathy
ter1
ter1

Yes you are right. We need no toxic people. I\'m so sorry this hurts your husband but it is best he understand the true situation.
JACL
JACL

I hope that your doctor\'s visit went well today and that this medical issue can be resolved. Please keep us posted. Prayers continue for healing.
Love and Hugs,
Diane
NellW
NellW

I agree cut the B____h completely out of your life. You don\'t need or deserve this kind of treatment. I hope the doctor\'s visit went well. What did you find out? Much love and big hugs My Friend...Nell