Expletive! Expletive! Expletive!

So feeling like crap today, not even IF related really. Had dinner with two of my girl friends last night. During dinner what we (girlfriend “A” and me) had what has been suspected confirmed. Abuse. Their have been “episodes” of verbal arguments of a terribly nasty nature and “strange” psychical injuries that have been blamed on clumsiness. But A and I are now done with suspicion and want to know what is going on. Here’s the real rub, B has A LOT of issues of her own and so we can’t eliminate the idea that perhaps this is for attention and not reality. I am beside myself, the idea we could have nipped this in the bud before there was marriage, house and BABY, makes me beyond ill. And the idea that this is all for attention makes my blood boil. So what to do? A and I have basically said our peace (which of course will be repeated) with the leeway that it is reality, we’ve done the “you need to call the police next time” and “you don’t deserve this” and “your stronger than you think, sometimes love isn’t enough” and a little dose of hard truth with some “well you lied” and “what happens if” and “do you want your daughter to live like this?” And so we decided that if she’s asked for attention she’ll get it, but that we will not enable her or him, we’ll take time to spend more time with them both and see if we can’t get a fix on what’s what and keep an eye on any attempt to get help. So if she doesn’t get some help or if she’s is doing this for attention, we’re done. I can’t just sit around and watch her self destruct, bringing a marriage and more importantly a child down with her. At that point that will be her choice and I will have one too and it will have to be self protection. If she wants help and needs support that’s one thing but if she just wants and audience I can not be that, I’ll have to distance myself and pray for her but I can not take part. I’ll do everything I can but…so I’m sick. I just never had any room for abuse, I’ve been there before and vividly remember the feelings and promised myself I would never be there again and watching a good friend is too close to comfort and dangerous I’m libel to take his head off one day, I’ve done it before although younger and foolish. But that’s my instinct, I’m a Leo, I protect those I care for, you hurt them my reaction is to hurt back or at least scare the crap out of them so they think twice. Just don’t know what to think, either way it’s awful, we’re in way over our heads and kinda stuck here at least for now. And at the same time I can’t let this effect my cycle or PG. Talk about a tough balance.