end of my rope
I told T he can't live here anymore. I told him that I can't stand how he treats us and does as he pleases. I am not feeling well - which may have added to my mood. He said he'd leave. I told him that I love him but I cannot take his abuse anymore.
I added that unless he follows our very simple rules - he cannot live here. This is the first time I've actually said it. He was verbally abusive and swore at me. I think I got to him though. Not sure what he's going to decide for now. His friend's mom has had with him too. Maybe it's because I've been talking to her. She, on the other hand, is a MAJOR enabler and even T can see that. He said she blames T for both of her sons' behavior. Talking to her I believe that. She doles out money and buys packs of cigarettes everyday for her kids. Bought a car for one of them and is constantly giving them money. Both of them were arrested the other night coming back from a party. T wasn't with them. He did go to the concert with the money my husband gave him.
Feeling better just writing this down.
UPDATE: I REALLY LAID THE LAW DOWN WITH T. I TOLD HIM THAT I'M NOT REPLACING THE BATTERY ON THE GARAGE DOOR OPENER - WHICH MEANS HE'D BETTER BE HOME ON TIME. NO MORE SLEEPING AT FRIEND'S HOUSES - NO MORE GOING FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME WITHOUT CALLING. NO MORE TEXTING - I WANT TO HEAR HIS VOICE. * I ENDED UP WRITING ANOTHER LETTER BUT THIS ONE WAS MUCH MORE FORCEFUL. I TOLD HIM IF HE CONTINUES TO BEHAVE IN THIS MANNER - HE IS OUT OF THE HOUSE!
* HE LATER GAVE ME A HUGE HUG AND APOLOGIZED. I'M NOT SURE IF WAS SINCERE OR NOT BUT IT'S MORE THAN WHAT HE USED TO DO. ACTIONS WILL PROVE HOW "SORRY" HE IS.
I added that unless he follows our very simple rules - he cannot live here. This is the first time I've actually said it. He was verbally abusive and swore at me. I think I got to him though. Not sure what he's going to decide for now. His friend's mom has had with him too. Maybe it's because I've been talking to her. She, on the other hand, is a MAJOR enabler and even T can see that. He said she blames T for both of her sons' behavior. Talking to her I believe that. She doles out money and buys packs of cigarettes everyday for her kids. Bought a car for one of them and is constantly giving them money. Both of them were arrested the other night coming back from a party. T wasn't with them. He did go to the concert with the money my husband gave him.
Feeling better just writing this down.
UPDATE: I REALLY LAID THE LAW DOWN WITH T. I TOLD HIM THAT I'M NOT REPLACING THE BATTERY ON THE GARAGE DOOR OPENER - WHICH MEANS HE'D BETTER BE HOME ON TIME. NO MORE SLEEPING AT FRIEND'S HOUSES - NO MORE GOING FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME WITHOUT CALLING. NO MORE TEXTING - I WANT TO HEAR HIS VOICE. * I ENDED UP WRITING ANOTHER LETTER BUT THIS ONE WAS MUCH MORE FORCEFUL. I TOLD HIM IF HE CONTINUES TO BEHAVE IN THIS MANNER - HE IS OUT OF THE HOUSE!
* HE LATER GAVE ME A HUGE HUG AND APOLOGIZED. I'M NOT SURE IF WAS SINCERE OR NOT BUT IT'S MORE THAN WHAT HE USED TO DO. ACTIONS WILL PROVE HOW "SORRY" HE IS.
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