Encouragement?

I am sad for my boyfriend, who is in county jail. He has been humiliated in the media, a fact that I can do nothing about. Our lives have changed and I want to make it all better for him, and I can not. And I feel that I have no right to complain as his release date is June 19, 2013. He has 3 years without driving privileges once he gets out. I don't know how to be encouraging without being condesending. Sometimes I am not even treading water.