Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Love, Pray) lecture
I am so glad I went to the Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Love, Pray) lecture. I got so much out of the lecture. I did get up in line to ask a question, but she ended questions just before I had the chance - I wanted to ask how her meditation practice was now. Mom did have her book for the book signing and someone went around with post-it notes to write our names so she could sign them quickly, and mom put both of our names! That was a little awkward for me but I went along! Kind of cute I guess. So Elizabeth said "I love mothers and daughters" anyway, that was nice of mom since I read her copy and because of her I read the book which helped me through a very hard time this year and I loved it. Anyway to sum up the lecture she first said her follow up memoir (out January) is on marriage (she married her guy from Brazil and the live in New Jersey - Homeland Security made him leave so she was forced to marry him to continue to have him around). It's called Committed - A skeptic makes peace with marriage. She said it was her second version - she listened to the intuition in her gut that the first one she wrote on her publishers time was not good so she told them she couldn't turn it in and took some time to do something else creative, a garden, which she recommends for creative inspiration - do something different. She then put together this one. She said she spent I think 3 years researching marriage so it has a lot of wisdom. One thing she brought up was how she sees women are now confused, unlike our moms/ grandmoms, because our women ancestors and role models didn't have choices like we do, and each path we take takes away from potential others, and no matter what our path the goal is to be that of a mystic - and she believes our body and listening to it is our guide to our intuition, that our bodies are more further evolved than our psyches, that our psyches are newer in terms of evolution. Pay attention to when we feel sick and change direction, like she did by preventing the first version of her recent book from going out when she finished it and it was due and she honored her feelings and stopped it (she dreamed she begged her publisher to spare her life and opened up to a random page when she was done and thought it was not good). She said she writes things out to figure out how she feels about things, and believes good advice to be To thine own self be true, and also a favorite quote from her book is from Richard from TX "Stop wearing your wish bone where you back bone ought to be" has saved her a lot. I have journaled since childhood and would like to be published. She talked about her first published book and her first lecture how the only guy that showed up was there accidentally and some funny stuff about it, and how she never imagined her success like this. As a writer she said to imagine you are writing to a specific individual so you are not boring the reader, and she said to write every day. She said she has coined a term "spare-ents" since she and others are childless and how the world needs some "spares" and that she wouldn't have the energy to do what she does if she had chosen motherhood. It sort of gave me some peace since I STILL struggle with that. She talked about the value of being an auntie and how history has always had no less than 10% of women childless, though these days in industrial cities it can be 50% or more. Also the family she helped have a home in Bali, the women is now an advocate for others who are disadvantaged and she now has money and employees. The woman was speaking out on behalf of an American Yoga teacher who people were discriminating against because "she was a gir and her girlfriend was a girl too" and she spoke to people about not judging. I took brief notes and wanted to write them out in more detail here while I could remember, a learning tool I've gathered. I got a lot out of it and hope you enjoyed what I shared on it.