Drama Drama and More Drama

Im stressed out to the max marriage life aint that great which opens the can to more issues and anxiety and if thats not enough my crazy bipolar aunt is on the go again starting drama w me after the fact i sent her a letter back on July 21 2017 and then once she got it & read it she went crazy then she never bothered me again and i thought that i had finally dealt w her for once and for all!!! But i guess not!!! Cause then a bout a few weeks ago she sent me a dvd of i can only imagine then the next week sent me a letter not containing drama of any kinda but a flip flop style sticky note pad. Then i thought oh God here it comes she wants me to do something for her. Well as it turns out she calls my hubs and i told her not specifically told her NOT TO CALL HIM anyways she does it and leaves a 1 minute message he listens to it and deletes it and tells me that my grandma is in hospice and that she choked on something and that my grandma raised me for 12 yrs shes trying to take me down guilt lane here and it aint gonna work cause she pulled this trick on us before and here and behold after all that my grandma needed someone to help her eat and therefore wasn't dying like how my crazy bipolar aunt was trying to make it look like and this time im not buying it and im NOT going to call her crazy ass like what hubs is encouraging me to do!!!! My other aunt just lost her partner and shes taking it hard and if this is just another call wolf thing then i don't want to get my other aunt into this on that emotional roller coaster cause she been thru enough. So here i am just stuck like chuck don't know what the hell to do.