Downhill day
Sigh. Panic attack over youngest son again. Didn't even get out of bed to go get girlfriend for the day. Been almost 2 months since we brought her up for a whole day and he did not wake up. Finally went and woke up. He admits he is staying up later and later. What are we going to do when school starts up again in 2 weeks. Not that it matters as he says he only maybe passed 2 of his 5 classes anyway. Going to lose his loan as requires a C average so he says he is dropping out of school after this semester. Now saying he doesn't even plan to go back to his summer job that he had last year. Not that I want that anyway since has to go in at 5am and can't get out of bed until noon. Last year I had to drag him out every day. Do not know what to do with him and with girlfriend not even motivating him, just no idea. People tell me throw him out. Don't know where he would go, homeless shelter???? Just can't calm down over it all and mentioned work twice today so he is upset with me. So wrong I should be upset with him. Girfriend over so have to remain calm and act normal when my heart is pounding out of my chest and I feel like tearing my hair out and screaming or just bursting into hysterical tears.
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So sad. Don\'t have any advice. Hope things change soon.
Vented to my other son and he said take away his computer, his Xbox and don\'t let him see his girlfriend. Got told I need to do something. Well gee I wish there was something I could do, but he is 18. Yeah can say he lives in my house rent free, but really can\'t take away his computer it is his. Can\'t take away his video games they don\'t belong to me....No clue what to do, but getting yelled at that I have to do something and help him somehow sure did not end my day well at all. Going to bed to cry. Gee Merry Christmas.
How about call Social Service and get them involved. Clearly it\'s beyond our scope. Good luck.
I realy feel for you ....things got so bad with my son when he was a teen ..amd he told me he was going to take his younger brother Dowen his same road with him ..and I had to do somthing ............so ...we discussed ....since ..we were a blended family ...I sugested that I would seperate from my h and ...he and his brother would live with me but he would have to folow the house rouls he would not go for that ..so I knew to protect my youngest I had to through out my son .. this all along had been causing so much pain ...to watch you child go through .these things ...is ..so painfull ...so I just couldent through him out when it was cold out .. so I weated till it was summer and told him he had to go or change he went but called me every weak he actualy had a good summer camping and staying at friends ......when the fall came ...my mom and dad took him in ..but he had to folow the rouls .........and we all managed to get through it and he ..ended up doing good .....it did him good ....it was the most painfull thing I ever had to do ...but I could not of kiked him out if it was winter and he had no ware to go ...so I understand. how you feel ....but somthing has to happen to get him to learn he needes to look after his self and his future ..it is very dificult because he is 18 ....I will keep you both in my prayers ....take care .....God bless