Dont know what to do....
I really need some advice and figured I would turn to my DS friends for help.
My best friend and I have been like sisters since ‘94. We have so much history together. I am the God Mother to her two kids, have been there through a lot of life’s up and downs etc. She is funny, witty, and often times very wild. We have always had such a great time together and always have.
My problem is our relationship has grown volatile and very one sided. She goes through phases where she is a really great friend - which that doesn’t last long- to constantly taking, demanding and expecting. Lately it has gotten worse. She is constantly trying to one up me, never has anything nice to say, and wont take responsibility for why things turn to crap in her life.
When I told her my news of my good friend Mark becoming my room mate she said nothing at first but then waited until I got home and started texting me with mean hurtful things. She was basically making vicious jabs at Mark. I know she is jealous cus she said she was before. She feels my friendship with Mark takes away from her time with me. I reassured her that all is well and told her…she has her family and has to spend time with her family. I made it clear I have a life too and its not fair of her to expect me to sit around and wait.
I’ve tried to speak to her about all this before to no avail. She gets mad and beligerant then gives me the silent treatment. When I ask her why is she acting like that she plays it off and chalks the silent treatment up to being busy.
I don’t like games. I don’t play games. She knows this…so why is she playing games with me?
I am torn to shreds and in tears over her behavior. I know that it is volatile. Who wants a toxic relationship in their life? I am trying so hard to better myself and all she wants to do is try to hold me back. I cant have that. On the other hand…I don’t want to lose my best friend of 17 years.
Please please I need advice…Should I just walk away or what?
Hope everyone is well!
<3 Rea
My best friend and I have been like sisters since ‘94. We have so much history together. I am the God Mother to her two kids, have been there through a lot of life’s up and downs etc. She is funny, witty, and often times very wild. We have always had such a great time together and always have.
My problem is our relationship has grown volatile and very one sided. She goes through phases where she is a really great friend - which that doesn’t last long- to constantly taking, demanding and expecting. Lately it has gotten worse. She is constantly trying to one up me, never has anything nice to say, and wont take responsibility for why things turn to crap in her life.
When I told her my news of my good friend Mark becoming my room mate she said nothing at first but then waited until I got home and started texting me with mean hurtful things. She was basically making vicious jabs at Mark. I know she is jealous cus she said she was before. She feels my friendship with Mark takes away from her time with me. I reassured her that all is well and told her…she has her family and has to spend time with her family. I made it clear I have a life too and its not fair of her to expect me to sit around and wait.
I’ve tried to speak to her about all this before to no avail. She gets mad and beligerant then gives me the silent treatment. When I ask her why is she acting like that she plays it off and chalks the silent treatment up to being busy.
I don’t like games. I don’t play games. She knows this…so why is she playing games with me?
I am torn to shreds and in tears over her behavior. I know that it is volatile. Who wants a toxic relationship in their life? I am trying so hard to better myself and all she wants to do is try to hold me back. I cant have that. On the other hand…I don’t want to lose my best friend of 17 years.
Please please I need advice…Should I just walk away or what?
Hope everyone is well!
<3 Rea
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