Does he think I am stupid
So I made the mistake of looking at his facebook page. Smack Me Over The head again.
And I see he is at a waterpark down here with this woman who is chasing him and that she is at his gigs down here - 4 hours from her home.
I emailed him disgusted that as he calls himself married to me on facebook, but apparently carrying on with her, to some degree.
And emailed me back and said he agreed to meet her at the waterpark. But then he said he was mad that she showed up uninvited at his gig. The only reason that would piss him off is if he had another woman there and that would create conflict and require him to be honest.
Frustrated and stupid me.
I just want truth and respect.
And I see he is at a waterpark down here with this woman who is chasing him and that she is at his gigs down here - 4 hours from her home.
I emailed him disgusted that as he calls himself married to me on facebook, but apparently carrying on with her, to some degree.
And emailed me back and said he agreed to meet her at the waterpark. But then he said he was mad that she showed up uninvited at his gig. The only reason that would piss him off is if he had another woman there and that would create conflict and require him to be honest.
Frustrated and stupid me.
I just want truth and respect.
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I\'m sorry you\'re going through this. I understand the compulsion to check his facebook. Now you know the facts. He\'s being dishonest and juggling multiple women. You are not missing out on anything good. It sounds like the waterpark woman really has her hopes up and is in for a big let-down. At least you know better. Hugs!
He just sucks.
In our quest to understand what caused the demise of our marriage, we are hurt over and over again. I am sorry that you had to see what he was doing on FB. While we as the abandoned ex\'s know what is going on, it feels like a hot, salty, rusty stake being driven in our heart when we see it with our own eyes. I have thought that maybe if I see my STBX and these \"things\" he is messing with enough times, maybe I will become desensitized to it. In reality, I am just creating more stress.
Save yourself the heartache and resist temptation. Do not look on FB or any other social media to see what he is doing. You know the truth and it is time for you to truly heal. Also, you are not stupid. Loving someone with all your heart and expecting them to honor you in the same way is all you are guilty of. Stay strong.
Thank you dear for this post. I want to sign onto FB today and check in and need to stay away from his stuff.
Amy, we\'ve all done the FB check........and we know it\'s not pretty. next time you feel the urge, remember all of the crap you\'re dealing with and remember all of us here are rooting you on, don\'t do it!!!!!! EVER., Since the last time I checked my stbx FB I have been tempted to look but I actually have to force myself NOT to look.....some days are a struggle but I remember how I felt the last time I checked and honestly, I don\'t need or want to feel that. It\'s so painful to see they have moved on and we are stuck. Be strong girl!!! They are just not worth it.......hugs
I deactivated and deleted FB period. If you still use it I would recommend at least blocking him. What I hated was before I blocked my ex I would be on the news feed and scrolling down and then see her picture with \"friend suggestions\" and my heart would stop..ugh. Finally I had enough with FB and all the BS that it is. Concentrating on me!
I am with Coop on the social media.