divorce is here

my wife filed for divorce .she threatened to make me sell the house if i contest the divorce .she lied in the divorce application that i abused her and she tried to salvage the marriage .but i did not want that .she just disappeared from the home .the next day the kids and i found out that she was in another country with another man.she never returned to our home .she came back from abroad last dec. and is staying with her relatives.also in the divorce application she lied that she returned to our home and i continued to abuse her and she had to move out .i have not seen her since she left last  year march.she called me and told me she do not want me and she is living with some one else.every time we talk on the phone she insults me .i did not contest the divorce .i am feeling lost ,helpless . i feel i am a failure .i could not keep my wife .the pain is terrible.i feel so lonely.