Disappointed
Life seems to show me good things and then some how I get focused on all the bad. I took him back 2 weeks ago and in only two weeks I feel all the joy has disappeared and all the good feelings melted away. Its such a cycle and I wonder why do I do this thing? I know it's my own fault but what keeps me following an emotionally abusive man over and over so many times at first he showers me with attention, then he slacks off and begins to distance himself and act like nothing is different, then when i speak up saying hey we haven't had any time together and its important to have time as a couple too! Then he gets mad, says Its not how i think it is, then he stops answering texts and phone calls, silent treatment, goes somewhere else instead of home (usually the X-wifes saying he went to see the kids who are 27, 30, and yeah a 15 year old and 2 grandkids). But we had the grandsons all day saturday and the older one all weekend yet every day he went there instead of coming home saying he had to work on the car. He drove the car home today and i drove him back to pick up his truck and he had to say goodbye to the kids for an hour. I went grocery shopping, came home, changed clothes, made breakfast then he finally got here and it is time for him to sleep because he works nights. He gets home at 8am yet doesn't get here home till 2pm every day this week. I do not think it is me tripping I think he is off the hook!!! If anyone reads this and wants to give me input I would appreciate it. I am bi polar but its like he sets it off, when he isn't here i am fine! what the hell???? I need to break up with him again to get his attention??? Why?? Why does it have to be like that?
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personally if it was me I would not break up to get his attention but to be rid of him...I am sorry you are going through this but to me its not ok if you two are together and suppose to be living together for him to ignore you and just not come home. I mean does he do anything with this x him being there so much makes you wonder especially when his kids arent really small. I dated men that ignored me and I may as well be alone so usually would just end things.....my kids dad was not perfect but he was always reachable and always came home. The stress of worrying about that is enough to send one over board......I think you need to focus on you and devise a plan to get rid of this guy.....things shouldnt go from perfect to bad in 2 weeks! Have you asked him what does he really want? Remind you it may not be the truth that comes out but just curious.....I dont foresee any change if you keep this cyckle going your just going to get more and more upset and he has the control of knowing you are always there waiting.