DH has the flu, I am starting IVF and I hate IF and AF

So I'm a little freaked out about going to my RE tomorrow for my day 3 bloodwork & u/s. This is it....my first IVF will officially be underway and I'm soooo nervous. I must admit, it was nice to take last month off and live normally without running back and forth "sneaking around" from work to the RE and worrying about what day I was on, etc. DH didn't get the flu shot and now he is really sick with the flu so I'm concerned about getting sick and also about how him being sick will affect this cycle (not only with illness but him taking more time off work). AF is her usual bitch and my cramps are bad. I am feeling annoyed, just so annoyed at IF and that we can't just have sex and get pregnant like "normal" couples. I am pissed off as all hell that we have to spend so much time, energy and money to just hope we can get pregnant. It's just not fair and I hate IF. Ugh, I'm cranky. Guess it's pretty obvious AF is here lol.....

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I totally understand. I\'m feeling the same way. We started our first IVF cycle this month too. The hormones are making me insane, it\'s crazy giving myself shots and I feel like I do nothing but think about what CD it is and how long until my egg retrieval, etc. Hang in there ... I think it\'s great that we are all going through the same thing and can relate. I feel like I\'m surrounded by people that just pop out babies like it\'s nothing and I wonder too why we can\'t just be a \"normal\" couple. I just hope that there is some reason for all this, that it makes us stronger, makes us closer to our DH, makes us cherish our children even more... not really sure what the reason is, but there has to be some reason we are going through all this!!! Good luck tomorrow and hope it\'s a better day :)
deleted_user
deleted_user

I completely understand how you are feeling. It is normal....with that being said, it still sucks! I have been counting cycle days, running to appointments, having hormones injected in me and been through all the ups and downs with DH. I wish I could say it gets easier.....all I can say is that it will test your strength and any woman that puts herself through all of this to start a family is ALREADY SUPER STRONG so you shouldn\'t worry! You will do great! We are all here for you and will be cheering you on especially on days when you are feeling down. Think positive and stay hopeful...that\'s really all you can do...the rest is out of your control. XOXO
RoxyD
RoxyD

Your feelings reflect my thoughts today too ! I\'m sure you will do great. You are so strong going through IF. We are here for you and will help you get through your cycle. It\'s not easy what we have to go through but it is worth it in the end. You just have to keep your eye on the prize and you\'ll make it.
Good luck !
deleted_user
deleted_user

Totally understand your feelings......You\'ve got A LOT going on right now, its understandable to feel a bit stressed and overwhelmed. But, your first IVF is starting tomorrow....that\'s a GOOD thing! It sucks that we can\'t get preggo like every other crack addict and unwed teenager out there, but you\'re taking control of your fertility and taking steps to become a mom. Good luck tomorrow!!
GirlAtHeart
GirlAtHeart

Good Luck with getting the show on the road! Sorry your husband is sick. They say that being sick with the flu, a cold, etc. shouldn\'t affect IVF. I even had the shingles during one round and I got pregnant! I will be thinking of you.
alanabanana
alanabanana

Oh I definitely feel what your saying. I wrote a journal once titled \"sex actually makes babies?\" The amount of emotion and finances we\'ve spent, not to mention the strain on our bodies, is ridiculous. Especially when the 90% of people can have an enjoyable act (sex) to create their children. IF sucks! Yep I said it and I am sticking to it.
On a positive note, IVF may be your ticket. So stay strong and know you are not alone!
whimsicalfool
whimsicalfool

Good luck to you! I agree with everyone else. IF sucks butt. And yes, this time from starting your baseline ultrasound at CD3 until the 2ww after ET is over is the longest thing in the world. I felt like two years went by in that time. You\'ll do okay. I found that, what helped me was to not look ahead to the last milestone (the end of the 2ww). Just pace yourself and look forward to the next appt/meeting/procedure in the process. Each one has its own progress and milestones. It will keep you a little more sane and not staring at next month\'s calendar 10 hours a day (although you still might, and that\'s okay. We all do! ;) )
deleted_user
deleted_user

Best of luck to you and DH (you for your cycle and IVF starting and him for getting better asap). I honestly never thought I\'d have to experience IVF to get pregnant either, I had a difficult time with it at first too. I\'m thinking of you, and praying that this is your time, that this is your turn to have a miracle!! Hugs hun.
ANB0417
ANB0417

I am so sorry to hear about the illnesses and that you\'re feeling down! Get excited! Just think, in a little less then a month- you could have a bu in the oven! I must say, hubby got Strep throat right around the time of my ER /ET- we were both miserable those 2 weeks... I ended up getting a cold and didn\'t take anything, thinking \"I Could be Pregnant\"... Blah, IF is such a bitch sometimes. I am thinking of you and hoping everything works itself out!
HaveFaith24
HaveFaith24

I understand...IF is so gut wrenching cruel. It robs our normalcy, positivity and zest in life. Hang in there! Hope DH feels better soon and you get your cycle under way that leads to a BFP!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Your feelings are completely normal but I\'m on the positive side saying YAY!!! You are about to start a cycle and that is so exciting! No other mother I know can say they met their baby at embryo stage. Yes, it sucks that we have to endure this crap for a family, but on the other side it\'s a really cool process to go through! We are so lucky to have scientific advancements to give us this opportunity that just 10 years ago we might not have had. Go into this new cycle with vigor and excitement!
Nellysgirl
Nellysgirl

so sorry lady that you\'re feeling so under the weather!! AF is a bitch, so is IF. But i\'m so excited that you are getting to start your IVF finally! This is going to be it! I have my hopes up!
Mendolove
Mendolove

Hang in there hon, try to focus on the positive ~ IVF, this could be it!! Good luck!!
XO