Delayed Reaction
I thought I was doing well until the 18th month came. February is filled with dates of the heart, Valentine's Day, our wedding anniversary, and his birthday. The second round without him was worst than the first time without him. It all feels so endless. Now, I am in need of help to cope with this endless grief. I've started on a medication and will see a counselor beginning today. I wonder how many of you have experienced a delayed reaction in your grief.
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I get emails everyday from Grief Share thought I would share this with you~
Day 98 - Unresolved Grief
Unresolved grief multiplies your problems. So express your emotions, share your story, get angry if you need to, and tell God how you really feel. The person you lost would not want you to become trapped in a continual cycle of grief. It is not a betrayal of that person for you to get better. Getting better means you move away from the disabling aspects of grief. You don’t stop missing the person or feeling the hole left in your heart.
Cindy recalls her husband’s words to her at some point after their daughter died: “Why don’t you take where you’ve been and what you’ve done and go forward with it and be proud that you survived it? Reach out to others who might be in need, and just be thankful that we had her.”
Your steps through the grieving process may be halting, baby steps. As difficult as this may be, God wants you to walk forward through your grief. Remember the words of David in Psalm 23:4: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me.”
“By his light I walked through darkness!” (Job 29:3).
God, shine Your light in every corner of my being and show me the areas of my grief that I need to face and resolve. Amen.
Thank you, bayoured.
I do think there's some guilt behind my delayed reaction. Today, I'm finally going to see a counselor. I will find a way to move forward and honor my husband's memory. He was filled with too much joy for me to sit in sadness and grief forever. Thank you for sharing that post. ❤