Decision time

Last night my wife and I did the text war stuff.  She feels that I need to only communicate with her when she talks to our daughter.  It doesnt matter if I need to talk sooner or at another time.  she turns her phone off and doesnt turn it on until she wants.
So last night after needing to talk with her about my daughter, when it came to her time she wanted to call, I turned my phone off. Oh I was told I was so controlling and manipulating. So I have made a choice, I will let my daughter call her mom at our convenience and if she doesnt answer then she can wait until the next day when I let her call again.  I am the one feeling controlled by this, so if my answer is wrong then I will just let that happen.