Dear Jerkface
What drives me insane:
* The way you call me incessantly if I am out of your sight; even if I am at work or TRYING to spend time with my family for a change, but ESPECIALLY if I might have the day off or time free that I could be doing something for ME for a change. Those times, you really have nothing to say, but you force me to sit on the phone listening to you freaking breathe for hours. And, of course then you get pissed off because I don't really have anything to say (HELLO, I am trying to clean the house, read a book, write a letter, grocery shop, take your pick), and I don't have anything to say that hasn't already been said. I find myself anxiously reaching for topics that are "safe" (something that is like the mythical unicorn, there are NO safe topics with you). In between your bouts of calling me, you expect me to call you (as if I have anything to say then either!) and if I don't....I'm a horrible person. Oh, yeah, and if I try to do something, like use the bathroom, without my phone attached to my person, and I miss a call from you....watch out! It becomes an hour long rant about what I was doing that I couldn't answer the phone!! I cannot enjoy a day off even because you are constantly there in every way, even when you're not!!
* The way you start a conversation as if you are asking for my opinion, but when I give it--even if I find myself agreeing with your point--you change your opinion and I am attacked for being stupid, selfish, foolish, an idiot, whatever. And how you continue to hammer your point home, talking over me and getting more and more irate, no matter what I say. I usually give in just to get you to shut the hell up! Or....how you ask me a question, and I try to answer it, and you immediately cut me off and tell me why I DON'T THINK THAT, FEEL THAT, OR WANT THAT--even though I do know my own mind better than you!
* That you are the foremost authority on ALL subjects, even subjects you couldn't possibly know anything about! Take for instance parenting, women's thoughts and feelings, my job, my family, my desires, etc. Of course, you are an expert on everything; if I would just acknowledge that you are GOD this wouldn't have to happen right?!
* How you twist everything I say and do to mean whatever twisted thought you have. If I say hello when you walk in the door, I was really saying "F You" you heard the tone of my voice right? If I don't say hello when you walk in the door, I was really saying "F You" because you heard the tone in my thoughts. If I say the weatherman says it is going to rain, I am really being abusive and trying to "one up" you because I think I know everything. If I try to explain to you something you did or said that really hurt me or the children, I am really saying "F You" because I am trying to make you feel badly about yourself. Ugg.....there is NO talking to you!
* How you think it is perfectly within your rights to talk to me like you do; belittle, frighten; demean; and outright be violent to me because you had a bad day, or because you (imagined) that I was trying to hurt you with my tone, or because the stock market fell today (even though you don't invest in stocks), but if I am having a bad day or just don't feel well then watch out.......
* How everything you do is always someone else's fault...usually mine.
* How you refuse to take any financial responsibility, not only for the kids that we have together, but even for your own shit....because you work hard for your money and should not have to "carry me". WTF?!?!
* How you act like the king of the castle; think you should be waited on hand and foot, take sex, money, etc whenever you want to because that is within your rights, but God forbid I should try to hold you accountable for anything; then I'm being an abusive bitch right?!
* How you take my sickness or being tired as a personal attack on you and find ways to make me even more miserable than I already am. "We need to talk" you say; then you keep me awake for hours while you lecture on whatever you want.
Oh, there are so many more, but I need a break from you for a minute
* The way you call me incessantly if I am out of your sight; even if I am at work or TRYING to spend time with my family for a change, but ESPECIALLY if I might have the day off or time free that I could be doing something for ME for a change. Those times, you really have nothing to say, but you force me to sit on the phone listening to you freaking breathe for hours. And, of course then you get pissed off because I don't really have anything to say (HELLO, I am trying to clean the house, read a book, write a letter, grocery shop, take your pick), and I don't have anything to say that hasn't already been said. I find myself anxiously reaching for topics that are "safe" (something that is like the mythical unicorn, there are NO safe topics with you). In between your bouts of calling me, you expect me to call you (as if I have anything to say then either!) and if I don't....I'm a horrible person. Oh, yeah, and if I try to do something, like use the bathroom, without my phone attached to my person, and I miss a call from you....watch out! It becomes an hour long rant about what I was doing that I couldn't answer the phone!! I cannot enjoy a day off even because you are constantly there in every way, even when you're not!!
* The way you start a conversation as if you are asking for my opinion, but when I give it--even if I find myself agreeing with your point--you change your opinion and I am attacked for being stupid, selfish, foolish, an idiot, whatever. And how you continue to hammer your point home, talking over me and getting more and more irate, no matter what I say. I usually give in just to get you to shut the hell up! Or....how you ask me a question, and I try to answer it, and you immediately cut me off and tell me why I DON'T THINK THAT, FEEL THAT, OR WANT THAT--even though I do know my own mind better than you!
* That you are the foremost authority on ALL subjects, even subjects you couldn't possibly know anything about! Take for instance parenting, women's thoughts and feelings, my job, my family, my desires, etc. Of course, you are an expert on everything; if I would just acknowledge that you are GOD this wouldn't have to happen right?!
* How you twist everything I say and do to mean whatever twisted thought you have. If I say hello when you walk in the door, I was really saying "F You" you heard the tone of my voice right? If I don't say hello when you walk in the door, I was really saying "F You" because you heard the tone in my thoughts. If I say the weatherman says it is going to rain, I am really being abusive and trying to "one up" you because I think I know everything. If I try to explain to you something you did or said that really hurt me or the children, I am really saying "F You" because I am trying to make you feel badly about yourself. Ugg.....there is NO talking to you!
* How you think it is perfectly within your rights to talk to me like you do; belittle, frighten; demean; and outright be violent to me because you had a bad day, or because you (imagined) that I was trying to hurt you with my tone, or because the stock market fell today (even though you don't invest in stocks), but if I am having a bad day or just don't feel well then watch out.......
* How everything you do is always someone else's fault...usually mine.
* How you refuse to take any financial responsibility, not only for the kids that we have together, but even for your own shit....because you work hard for your money and should not have to "carry me". WTF?!?!
* How you act like the king of the castle; think you should be waited on hand and foot, take sex, money, etc whenever you want to because that is within your rights, but God forbid I should try to hold you accountable for anything; then I'm being an abusive bitch right?!
* How you take my sickness or being tired as a personal attack on you and find ways to make me even more miserable than I already am. "We need to talk" you say; then you keep me awake for hours while you lecture on whatever you want.
Oh, there are so many more, but I need a break from you for a minute
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