Dealung with my AH is like living on crazy street

I went to get my husband which is A 5 he trip and he got all upset that there was no sex involved that we did not hardly speak the whole day I was there . Then we it was time to leave of course he decided he was not going. I get so ,so tired and fed up with this craziness. It was a total waisted trip. When will I ever learn . So now he is driving himself down. Shrew I'm sure that will change too.
I'm know he needs help but I justvdont know if I can do it