Day 41, evening
Hmmm...something in contacting my old friend has cracked the wall in me. It's not a bad thing. It's unexpected, and at the same time, can be handled. She had suggested getting together a number of times over the last probably 9 months. If in person, I would say yeah sure. Over email, yeah sure but never pursued it further. I worried about not being able to drink right after work. I worried about how I would appear physically. I felt like I looked liked a drinker and that she saw that or would see that.
When I contacted her, the kind words she had for me were unexpected, too. I mean not that I don't know her care for me and our understanding of each other, but the kind way she sees me and how much she likes and admires me as a person is in a real direct conflict with how I see myself inside right now, not that she knows that conflict exists for me.
I can act my way through work and the world. I appear confident. I appear that I have it together. I appear that I know what I want. I appear likable, admirable, kind, role model-like, all the really good, good things that one would hope to be to others and be within the world. And it is just not how I feel inside right now and maybe I've never felt that way. In what I feel is the truest part of myself, I feel undeserving of such generosity of spirit.
At the same time, I know that doesn't make sense. If it is my actions in the world and with others that give this appearance, then I am those things by my actions. What greater thing could one ask for than that?
Drinking has crossed my mind this evening, but I have made a commitment to make a life change. Drinking would not meet my goal. I need to just sit in it and feel whatever this is I'm feeling. I have numbed myself for three years. This is a good thing...to feel.
Today is day 41. It is evening. I am the tree, not the leaves. I am the mountain. It is almost the end of day 41 and I am solid.
When I contacted her, the kind words she had for me were unexpected, too. I mean not that I don't know her care for me and our understanding of each other, but the kind way she sees me and how much she likes and admires me as a person is in a real direct conflict with how I see myself inside right now, not that she knows that conflict exists for me.
I can act my way through work and the world. I appear confident. I appear that I have it together. I appear that I know what I want. I appear likable, admirable, kind, role model-like, all the really good, good things that one would hope to be to others and be within the world. And it is just not how I feel inside right now and maybe I've never felt that way. In what I feel is the truest part of myself, I feel undeserving of such generosity of spirit.
At the same time, I know that doesn't make sense. If it is my actions in the world and with others that give this appearance, then I am those things by my actions. What greater thing could one ask for than that?
Drinking has crossed my mind this evening, but I have made a commitment to make a life change. Drinking would not meet my goal. I need to just sit in it and feel whatever this is I'm feeling. I have numbed myself for three years. This is a good thing...to feel.
Today is day 41. It is evening. I am the tree, not the leaves. I am the mountain. It is almost the end of day 41 and I am solid.
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