Dating.....I'm not so sure

Having second thoughts. I am getting used to my new life. Nobody to answer to. Nobody to take care of. I have been married 2x's and raised 2 children mostly alone(due to divorce) and now its just me to worry about. I loved my husband, but marriage is a lot of work and yes I know this is only a date. But it could lead to another and then its a relationship and I'm not sure thats what I want. I have made it through the worst of my grief and just want to take care of myself now. It would be nice to have someone to go to dinner with and a movie here and there. But come on we all know eventually it becomes more than that. Oh goodness, I just dont know what to do.

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alicea
alicea

I TOTALLY understand what you are saying, I thought the EXACT same thing the other day.. As much as I miss that \"special someone\" to go thru life with, I really don\'t think it is in the cards for ME, anyway.. I am so set in my ways, with my older children and 2 grandchildren. What I do is pretty muc what I want to do, or not... I just can\'t see starting all over yet. Maybe it is just NOT the right time for you... Maybe you could go on this date, and it will give you more of an insight as to what you really want.. then again, for me anyway I don\'t know what I truly want right now, so I am going to keep on plugging along by \"myself\" for now. Whatever you do, your heart will help lead the way.. Always here for you..... hugs,
deleted_user
deleted_user

A tough one indeed. I am seeing a man with no emotional attachments. We go to coffee, he comes for supper, we attend events together. No more, no less. I like it that way. Like you, I found marriage to be hard work and am not interested again. Go on the date and have a pleasant time.
Hugs
Sel
annsullivan
annsullivan

Just enjoy each day & make the best of each day as it comes.
pneylan
pneylan

This is so difficult and there is no easy answer. Like you, I\'d love to have someone to go to dinner or a movie with but I don\'t think I want anymore than that. I think i\'m getting used to living alone now and certainly don\'t want another relationship. I\'m sure it is possible to have a friend, as Sel says, but I feel you have to be clear to your \"date\" what you want and expect. If he\'s okay with that then go for it and see how it goes. Be honest aned open and follow your feelings. Good luck.
Glenda
Glenda

Go on the date and be up front with him...Not interested in a relationship...Just friend...Have a good time..