Date and such

Well, that date with my Wife went fairly well. As good as can be expected. We had a nice meal and walked around the mall nearby. When I took her back to our condo she wanted me to come in and told me she wanted to be intimate. I didn't want her to feel rejected but I just couldn't do it. I told her and she was disappointed.
For me sex has always been just as much about love as it is about the physical pleasure. I suppose some might think this a strange attitude for a man but it is how I am. I am still pretty hurt and angry about the things that have happened in our relationship. I really don't have any desire to be intimate with her right now.
 
The next day she texted me saying she wasn't mad about me not wanting to have sex. I haven't tried to explain why yet. At the time when she wanted to I told her that I didn't want to let sex get in the way of just reconnecting as friends first. I haven't told her the more indepth and real reason to her that I stated above. I know I should and I need too. I don't want to hurt her but I can't hold it in much longer.
If I were really honest with myself I would say I am not sure that I want to reconcile at all. I don't even want to admit that but I have to.