Dating....

I'm 28 years old and have never been on a date. For those of you in America this might seem odd, but those of us here in the UK and Ireland you're probably in the same boat.So why is it so different in two countries that both speak the same language (well sort of)? I know a lot of Americans and even know some English people living in America, and ALL of them seem to go on dates. Whether single, in a relationship or married, they go on a lot of dates. English people don't do dating the same. Why is it so hard for English people to go up to someone and say 'Hi would you like to go on a date with me?' I'll tell you the answer. We think we're going to get raped or mugged, or both. I've always wanted to go on a date. They look fun, but I wouldn't have a clue what to do. What's the etiquette reagarding a date? Do you ask or wait to be asked? What happens if they say no? Do you feel rejected and dwell on this for a long time or do you move on to the next person? When you actually get the date who decides where to go? Who pays? Are you supposed to decide this in advance? What constitutes a date? Do you have to eat or can you go to a night club and not speak to each other?Here in England in order to be asked out, one or both parties tend to be drunk. It happens late at night, normally in a nightclub or pub, a man will saunter up to a woman (I say saunter more likely stumble) and say something like 'fancy coming back to mine for a shag?' this is how English people pull and start relationships. Why can't we be more civilised like our American friends?Now this evening myself and my husband are going out to dinner. Would this consitute a date? I have no idea. If it does are there certain rules we should follow?Answers on a postcard please......

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ZanyBeeper
ZanyBeeper

I would certainly consider this a date night for you and hubby. To me, all a date really consists of-if it is good-is good food, good conversation, and good company. You and hubby know each other well-maybe LOL. Try and get back to why you fell in love with each other. Try to remember what attracted you to each other and try to ercapture some of that. That is if you want a romantic date. Now if you just wanna tantalize and play that can be done too = ) Dating in America-there are no steadfast rules as to who pays or who asks whom or where ya go. Generally I would think the person who does the asking would pay for it unless it was discussed before hand to go Dutch or something. Just go out and have fun and let what may happen happen. And that\'s about all I know about that. = ) Hope you have a great time. You deserve it!! Hugs. xxx
ReginaPhalange
ReginaPhalange

Thanks Chelle, so tonight is my first ever date yay. *does a happy dance* I\'m gonna make a note should I ever become single to NEVER ask a guy out, I don\'t wanna be paying for him haha xoxo
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am 30yrs old and live in the US. I am in the same boat as you. I\'ve never been on a date, kissed, nor had sex. Infact I let someone know when they are crossing my personal space. I feel if a man loves you he will wait until you marry him to get in your pants. That is the only way I am going to have sex. If I mary know one I will be a virgin for the rest of my life. People that know me admires I am keeping myself until I mary.