court hearing today
Went to the hearing today, went well, custody , finances, money property, division.
I have 250 items to divide up but the judge went off her 32 items because she was so insistant. my items included hers and more, so it was divided, my gain. She changed her spousal support 1500 for the next 8 years. seems crazy. custody is mine even though she fought it. Its now down to a classic truck that I use for work appaised a 6,000 she thinks its 25,000. so another appaiser. when all was over and she got property she was under her breath "SWEET" like she won.....I was disgusted, it just made me sick...money all about money and property. Not her son and his well being.
Even though I came out ahead in all this with my son, I am still very shocked and stunned. Being married to someone like this for 18 years??? How did I not see this. the heart and soul pain still very much alive and kicking in me. I would of given up everything ( except my son) to have her mentaly better. I am down and sad for what was once there.
Now I can rebuild and move foward with my son!
I have 250 items to divide up but the judge went off her 32 items because she was so insistant. my items included hers and more, so it was divided, my gain. She changed her spousal support 1500 for the next 8 years. seems crazy. custody is mine even though she fought it. Its now down to a classic truck that I use for work appaised a 6,000 she thinks its 25,000. so another appaiser. when all was over and she got property she was under her breath "SWEET" like she won.....I was disgusted, it just made me sick...money all about money and property. Not her son and his well being.
Even though I came out ahead in all this with my son, I am still very shocked and stunned. Being married to someone like this for 18 years??? How did I not see this. the heart and soul pain still very much alive and kicking in me. I would of given up everything ( except my son) to have her mentaly better. I am down and sad for what was once there.
Now I can rebuild and move foward with my son!
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We all ask \"How did I not know?\" I am amazed at what my X has done and not done (who doesn\'t go to their son\'s wedding???).
Glad it went well-now onwards and upwards for you and your son :)
Well, yet another hurdle is almost over for you my dear. You will ask why and how - it\'s normal. Your a good man with good character. You either have it or you don\'t and she doesn\'t have it.
Sometimes, love blinds us to all of the thing that hurt us - thinking we can fix what\'s wrong. We can\'t. The only thing we can fix, and I know you have heard this over and over again, is ourselves.
You do what you have to to make a safe, respectful, loving life for you and your son. He knows who his rock is, and from what I can see, your a good sturdy one and he chose well.
Blessings to you! You\'ll be ok.
I had a hint of what the ex was but he had great explanations for the things he did. In the end he is the most dispicable man you could ever imagine. But I\'m still amazed at his current stunts he\'s tried on me.
You will make that new life for yourself and you have your son to make a life for. I think the two of you together will help each other move forward. Your son will have needs that have to be met. School, future college expenses and you will work towards those goals.
I was COMPLETELY clueless about what my X was truly like during my marriage (btw, he\'s currently in jail for blowing off sentencing for his most recent DUI). My x was the EXPERT in hiding, lying. All this time, that\'s all I saw - what he wanted to show me. And it was all I WANTED to see... because I loved him SO MUCH. I still do love him, if he were the same person I remember... but he\'s not. I know it doesn\'t feel like it now because of all the pain, but now that you know the truth, it will make it easier for you to let go and move on, when you\'re ready. {{HUGS}}