Confused

I am so confused on what I am going through with this menopause. Everything has become so much harder for me to do like concentrate, exercise,  sex,  carry grocery bags, mind wonders,  thinking negative,  when normally I  a very positive person. I get some suggestions from my menopause groups on other social media, but I usually take the suggestions for a little while, then I lose interest and stop doing the things that was suggested, because I have a hard time being consistent, which is another side effect of menopause. It's such a vicious circle. But in the mean time I hate myself and my body, so it's easier to take the attention off of me and put it on someone else,  because I am so codependent and I can only feel good about myself is by doing for others. Is that selfish of me?