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OKAY - I KNOW #2 SON HAS CROSSED THE LINE.  HE DIDN'T COME HOME LAST NIGHT AND I SAW MORE DRUG TALK ON HIS PHONE - VICODIN.  TWO PEOPLE WANTED TO BUY IT FROM HIM. HE MAY BE SELLING BUT IT'S OBVIOUS HE HAS NO MONEY SO I IMAGINE HE'S "EATING" HIS PROFITS. TODAY MY HUSBAND AND I ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET OUR FRIEND (WHO WE HAVE GOTTEN TO KNOW THROUGH OUR YOUNGEST WHEN HE NEEDED HELP) IS A DRUG COUNSELOR. HE INSISTED WE MEET WITH HIM TO DISCUSS OUR OPTIONS AND TO PLAN HOW WE ARE GOING TO ADDRESS OUR SON, J.  ON FRIDAY - OUR FRIEND WANTS US TO MEET WITH HIM AND OUR SON FOR A MINI, INFORMAL, INTERVENTION.   OKAY -THEN WHAT?  J IS SUPPOSED TO START COLLEGE ON MONDAY.  IF WE PUT A HOLD ON THAT HE LOSES HEALTH INSURANCE FOR HIS CARE.  IF WE WRITE THE CHECK AND HE FINDS HE CAN'T DO IT - WE LOSE BOTH THE TUITION AND WILL HAVE NO INSURANCE.  HAVING SAID THAT - WHAT IF HE CAN HANDLE SCHOOL?  PERHAPS HE CAN GO TO OUTPATIENT AND GO TO SCHOOL?  I DOUBT THAT.  IF IT'S PAIN MEDS HE'S ADDICTED TO (ASSUMING HE MIGHT BE) THEN HE DEFINITELY WOULD NEED RESIDENTIAL.  BTW - REMEMBER I SAID I HAVEN'T SEEN ANY OBVIOUS SIGNS?  HE DIDN'T COME HOME LAST NIGHT - YET HAS AN APPOINTMENT TO GO TO HIS COLLEGE WITH US THIS MORNING.  HE STILL HAS TIME TO SHOW UP BUT .....  OH - I DOUBT IT'S A COINCIDENCE THAT LAST NIGHT I MET THE DIRECTOR OF ADMISSIONS AT THE COLLEGE WHERE MY SON ATTENDS.  IN FACT, HE HANDLED OUR SON.  LONG STORY SHORT, I SHARED WITH HIM ABOUT OUR SON AND WONDERED WHAT THE GRACE PERIOD WOULD BE - IF WE WRITE THE CHECK AND FIND OUT OUR SON ISN'T READY.  HE TOLD ME HE WOULD FIND OUT AND CALL ME, WITHOUT REVEALING WHO IT IS.  HE INDICATED HE'S LEAVING THE COLLEGE ANYWAY BECAUSE A NEW ADMIN. CAME IN WHICH HE'S NOT HAPPY WITH.  THIS MAN WAS DIRECTOR OF ADMIN. AT AN IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL FOR TEN YEARS UNTIL MOVING INTO THIS AREA.  HE SAID HE COULD GO BACK THERE ANYTIME BUT NEEDS TO BE BY HIS PARENTS.  SO HE'S LEAVING THE COLLEGE (THEY DON'T KNOW YET) AND INSTEAD WILL BE OPENING UP A BOWLING ALLEY IN OUR TOWN WITH HIS WIFE - WHO WILL BE LEAVING HER JOB AS A DENTAL ASSISTANT.  THIS MAN USED TO WORK WITH TROUBLED YOUTH AT A HOME FOR YEARS AND MISSES WORKING WITH YOUTH.  HE HAS SOME PLANS TO GET ENGAGE THE YOUTH IN ACTIVITIES WITH BOWLING.  HE SAID HE HAS PLANS TO USE BOWLING AS A TEACHING TOOL.  I AM SO IMPRESSED WITH HIM BECAUSE THAT WAS ONE OF MY BIGGEST PET PEEVES -THAT KIDS (BETWEEN 11 AND 14) HAVE NOTHING TO DO.   THE REASON WHY I MET HIM IS -- I SAW AN AD IN A LOCAL SAMPLE PAPER THAT INVITED PEOPLE TO COME AND FIND OUT WHAT THE NEW CITIZEN'S LOCAL PAPER IS ALL ABOUT.  THE PAPER IS FOR THE PEOPLE AND BY THE PEOPLE.  ANYONE CAN SUBMIT A STORY WITH PHOTOS, ADVERTISE AN EVENT, ETC.   THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR!  I CAN START MY COMMUNITY CAMPAIGN TO BRING AWARENESS TO "THE BUBBLE" (WE CALL OUR TOWN) ABOUT ADOLESCENT USAGE AND ADVERTISE THE PARENT RESOURCE PACKET AND MORE!  I'M SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS.   I HOPE J SHOWS UP SOON......