Communication

I have said I am a very reserved person and it's hard for me to openly talk about sex, my desires and needs, to my partner.  Last night I finally but the bullet and we talked about everything that has been botherig me. It was a real eye opener.  We talked about him texting his ex, this stopped 4 months ago, how I feel and what I should do when I am wanting some affection and why he doesn't seem interested in that part of our relationship. I mean we have sex every great once in a while but not often. He said that he has an issue and he is embarrassed because he either doesn't get completely hard or he can't stay hard. He said this is something he has never been through and that it has nothing to do with me. We talked about things I could do to help and what he likes in the bedroom. He told me to be direct and go after what I want. If I need this from him to tell him. We spoke for hours and I felt a lot better about our situation. I was very insecure when it came to his ex. Those feelings faded away last night. He loves me. I'm sure of this.  We have both been through so much and our previous relationships were pretty messed up. His, more than mine. He said he just wanted to live out his life with me and build our future together. He asked me to marry him.