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having a really hard time with the boys being away at school. one barely talks to me and the other one does sometimes. asked if could visit one this weekend and he said no. they are so introverted and it sucks. they are brilliantly intelligent just living in the hub of boston and hiding in their rooms instead of getting out. i guess it will come in time. i just wanna take them home and be with them. im lost but getting closer with daughter. just really depressed
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Throughout time, we ALL will be given specific problems to solve. (hug)
For years, you have viewed your problems as one general thing. In reality, your darkness is created by you and kept alive by you.
I would like to suggest that you check out the group here called \"Empty Nest\", Sister. Your children were not born to accommodate your life purpose; they have their own (hug)
Remember the year I became aware of you? It\'s coming close to time when you will be on your own and have -zero- reasons not to find your peace. I look forward to seeing you act upon your lessons.
from day one i have never been good about the me thing. i will try the empty nest site. thank you
She is sooo right...you need to take care of yourself. It does need to be about you. When the last one is out you are going to be hurting if you don\'t start filling those empty spots with something positive. I lost a friend this summer to suicide because she couldn\'t cope with her oldest leaving. She didn\'t take care of her pain and it got the best of her. I am so glad you found an empty nest group and are talking to people about it, it\'s so important to reach out. If you want to ramble on ever I will listen.
thank you. some days are really really rough for me. i know they need to do what they are doing just worry so much. i need to find me someday soon. my head goes a million places it shouldnt. they are amazing boys and so smart i just worry. they wouldnt let me come visit them this past weekend he only wanted me drop stuff off in parking lot and go. ouch.
That is an ouch! Kids are so weird at that age, they go about finding themselves in all sorts of ways. Big hugs...it\'ll get better just hang in there.