childhood abuse, self esteem, and anxiety

ok, so I've discovered that I react to people at work when they criticize me, instead of seeing it as opportunity for improvement, I react as somebody who has been abused and needs to heal his inner child. One particular paragraph grabbed my attention (I don't know which web site it is)

People who endured early-childhood abuse andpsychologicalne-glect often develop a protective personality subself whose goal is to please other people at all costs. The "Pleaser's" intense, narrow focus is protectingShamed, Abandoned,andScaredyoungsubselves from the agony of social rejection, scorn, disapproval, criticism, and dislike. By definition,the Pleaser doesn't yet trust the residenttrue SelforNur-turersubselvesto guard these vulnerable Inner Kids from more pain. The Pleaser often works with thePerfectionist ("Wemustfollow rules and obey all authorities"), Inner critic ("Displeasing anyone means we're afailure!"), Catastrophizer, ("If we displease people, we'll be alone and unloved forever!"),and perhaps aGood Child ("Imustplease Mommy and Daddy!")
Common behavioral clues of an overactive Pleaser include (a) rare-ly confronting or disagreeing with important people; (b) over-apologizing; (c) smiling and joking despite major inner pain, (d) consistently focusing on other people's needs and feelings and neglecting their own (self-aban-donment); and (e) rarely asking for, or accepting, help. Until excessive shame and fear of abandonment are reduced via personal recovery, the Pleaser often influences the host person to choose wounded associates - despite significant relationship strife.
I found this to be exactly like me and this paragraph is about victims of abuse. I wasn't beat up or didn't survive sexual abuse. But I suffered demeaning verbal stuff at home and school when I was young that stayed with me and I didn't know what I was feeling. I am overly hard on myself for all these reasons.