Chicken Little

The sky is falling, the sky is falling!  That is what I am projecting to my son, I believe.  He told me that he's stressed out because of the pressure I've been putting on him about his chemistry.  He said that when he doesn't cooperate and doesn't follow through on his work, I make comments like "you're going to fail" and it really stresses him out.  I am really not handling this parenting thing very well, lately.  I guess since he seemed to be doing so well, my expectations were even higher than where he really is at.  I also commented to his caseworker the other day that I am nervous about him being off of probation.  He also has to pay over $700 in restitution before his probation is over.  I told him he had to earn it and can't take it out of the bank, which could possibly mean he'd be on probation a little longer.  I am not sure about that.  Anyway, I shouldn't have brought it up.  He is so upset with me - knowing he was grounded this evening that he probably set it up so that he could 'be "upset",  take off and blame it on me.  I am not taking full responsibility for this but i do have a part in it.  I suppose I should read the packet I put together.  I need a refresher course and I also need to step back.  It's as if I haven't learned anything in the past year or so..... sigh.......  things will get better - just having a bad week, I guess.....